I am finding that outside of work i isolate. I feel awkward trying to hold a normal conversation. I find that i have to really force myself to communicate with anyone. Idk i kinda feel like i don't know how to act if that even makes any sense! I always feel kind of lost like i don't know what to do with myself. Its driving me nuts.
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Are you in a recovery program? Fellowshipping?
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It makes so much sense! I felt the same at different points in my journey so far. You could go to meetings to try connecting, try social sober apps, therapy etc. For me, I had to find out the root cause of why I felt this way, and there were a few reasons. Biggest I think being, I had drank for so long, for so often, that I too didn't really know how to live. My own indecision also plays a part. Not knowing who I really was, I was unsure how really to just be I guess. So I had to change my perspective. Instead of telling myself I don't know what I am doing or who I am, and was frustrated and down about it, I asked myself how do I to live, and who do I want to be, what do I want to grow in me. I wrote down several life questions, answered them, and created 5 values for me to currently live by overall. So, instead of telling yourself you can't do it, or don't know how, develop yourself into your unique who and how!
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I feel this way too. 15 years of drinking in almost all my social situations fucked up my social skills. I feel like I’m literally relearning how to interact with people and create relationships for the first time since child hood. It’s wild. I’m glad some one else on here can relate!
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You’re not alone Bobbi….. that’s a common topic in Loosid for sure. You will find a way… we all will 
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It's nice to know people can relate thank you guys
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Sounds familiar to me.
It gets better with time and working the steps.
Same for me I struggle so bad with socializing sober. It’s my biggest downfall. It’s like I don’t remember how.
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I am an isolator myself and have found zoom meetings help. If I can be of any assistance like sharing links to meetings with you, please let me know
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Same!! It's such an odd feeling
It’s a daily struggle. Start going to the gym on a daily. Find a local AA meeting.