Im starting to notice how little in common me and my wife have as i continue my recovery. Im so glad to be sober but she will never not use in some form. We have never been compatible but now it really seems like 2 strangers with commonality of just our kids.
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It's tough, I went through something similar. I alsovhad to learn a bunch of things after alcohol isn't a part of my life. They are (notice it's present tense):
- How to feel
- How to react to feelings
- What i like to do sober
- Who my friends are
- How to be accountable
- How to do the next right thing which is contrary to my natural instinct
I was told to put sobriety on the very top of things I must do daily. Everything else will fall in place according to God's plan, not my will. This doesn't mean I get what I want or how I envision the ending.
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Exactly....my sobriety is TOP this time....I don't know if I can stay with her. Toxicity and negativity is not conducive for my recovery
I’m sorry you’re going through that- sounds tough. I’ve never been married but was engaged to the person I used with and we had to end our relationship. Sometimes it’s a blessing in disguise even if it feels like the hardest thing in the world. Do what you feel you need to do for yourself. Put yourself first this time.
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