Crowdsourcing vacation advice!

Recovery
#1

I’ve politely declined a few vacation offers recently that all included the caveat “you should know, because we’re going to X, we all will definitely be wasted the entire time.” It’s nice to be thought of. But I’m starting to get annoyed at the pattern of “please join us on a trip where all we’re going to do is get blasted, we’d love to have you there, oh you’re not going to come, that’s hurtful, we were so nice to invite you.”

How do y’all handle this tactfully?

Everything I rehearse in my head gets mean and unhelpful real fast :sweat_smile::joy:

2 Likes
#2

:joy::joy::joy: just keep saying no, eventually they’ll stop asking

1 Like
#3

I’d like them to start inviting me to things I can actually participate in, and idk how to steer the convo in that direction in a helpful way.

1 Like
#4

Do they enjoy things that don’t involve alcohol or maybe it’s time for new friends? I definitely relate to your rehearsal in your head!

1 Like
#5

Do your own things with sober people.

2 Likes
#7

Taylor nailed it.
New playmates and new playgrounds.

4 Likes
#8

This is making a huge differencr for me.

1 Like
#9

I politely say that it doesn’t appeal to me. And then I double down on making sober friends in AA

1 Like
#10

You and I know you know how to beat yourself up better than anybody. I am working on self forgiveness and loving myself and or “nurturing”.

1 Like
#11

I handle this by hanging out with people who don't drink. Play sports mainly. But like you this issue comes up. I usually decline and only go if I have to like for family. Good luck w this. Not easy.

1 Like
#12

I go to a really great dynamic AA online meeting every morning at 7:15 based at Expect a Miracle Clubhouse in Landsdale PA and it has helped me through a difficult difficult time after the loss of my wife by suicide and immediately having to move to a city across the state four times larger before the shock wore of. I didn’t even have the time to say goodbye properly to all my AA family. It’s been a year and a half and by the help of AA and family and professional help I am beginning to trust again. Thank you for your share dear precious heart.