Dangerous living situation

Recovery
#1

I relapsed with my roommate and we had a physical relationship now I'm sober and she's become abusive and my supportive housing director and counselor said they have nowhere to move me. There are dealers banging on the door because she owes then money. I feel partly responsible for the codependent relationship because we had a physical relationship She would tell me if you don't have a physical relationship with this person you won't eat or get any drugs and I felt threatened before she had sold my phones and broken one when she threw me down on the floor and broken my phone last month. What can I do, I welcome any and all advice? She has a history of assault and battery when in a relationship and she stabbed her own father and killed there family dog

The director said he did have an apartment they can move me too but that's after her threatened to evict me because I told them that she was going to move another person into the apartment

#2

Get an stay sober. Get to meetings and practice the principles. If you do, these kind of situations will evaporate.

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#3

I'm sober and determined and I will definitely keep on going to NA meetings.

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#4

That’s the primary thing to do. If you are in danger you can talk with members and a sponsor about that and get help and support. Nobody should have to stay in an abusive relationship or unsafe environment. Praying for you.

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#5

As far as the relationship goes, protect yourself and place as much distance there as the world allows which can be pretty great when you set your mind to it. Relationships are tricky enough which is why we are urged to avoid them for a time especially near the beginning of our sobriety. That timeliness is t clear cut and everyone not the same so unfortunately that will be up to you to figure out but I do know that personally, no relationship survives without love and respect and abuse isn't what that looks like. Not in any form. :pray:

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#6

Get Out, please. There has to be somewhere you can go where you are safe.

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#7

I'm safe for now. I lock my door when I'm home and when I leave

#8

You need to get a change of scenery!!!

#9

Stay sober, move into a stable place and stay out of s€x relationships for at least 1st year of solid sobriety. Worked for me. Initially I stumbled w s€x and learned the hard way. I filled the emptiness w the program and my spiritual path. Now coming up on 15 years sober. Good luck!