Dating after divorce

Recovery
#1

I need some suggestions.
I am not officially divorced yet, but it’s a mutual divorce and we’ve been disconnected for almost 2 years. I am hoping to “date” soon, nothing serious, just want companionship and see what happens. My thing is I find myself attracted to someone I know from my home group. He hasn’t been around in a while so it’s easy to not pursue it- but I find myself thinking about him a few times a week :joy:.
My friend thought that if he was interested in me, he would pursue conversations with me. I don’t know. I think I have just been lonely in a marriage without any affection for so long that I’m extra sensitive to attraction lol.

And another thing- he’s on a dating app and said he met someone a few times and has dated another woman from my home group too. So, it’s pretty obvious he’s not into me right?
Also: I have tried matching with other people but I can’t shake the crush :expressionless::weary:

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#2

Not necessarily- men have just as many insecurities about dating and can be oblivious. If you feel comfortable I would just ask him out for coffee and see what happens.

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#3

Ok as a man, a divorced man in similar shoes, I can say men have tons of insecurities. Also it is attractive for a woman to engage a man to most men. Just ask him for a coffee or something

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#4

Ask him out for coffee, do a day thing even just for a walk. It’s ok .. God has a plan for you. Just be patient and pray for what you want . Blessings happen everyday.

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#5

I’m crushing on a girl in program also, it’s difficult and not sure if it’s worth the gossip or chance for awkwardness if it doesn’t work out. Plus my dating life is different so the difficulty is more challenging

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#6

Maybe he’s not perusing you because you’re in the same home group. I’ve met people that refuse to date within aa bc it could affect one another’s sobriety.

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#7

Thank you guys so much!!