This boy asked me to be his girlfriend. He told me that he only wanted me to drink with him and obviously i couldn't. When i told him i relasped and drank without him, he broke up with me and still wants access to me. I kicked him to the curb and now i am four days sober. That guy is the worst person ever. I even told him is he sure he wants me as a girlfriend and he got mad at me and he said he never felt so sure. The idiot never knew what he wanted.
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This is why they tell you NOT to be dating etc. your first year- or more sobriety, which sounds like forever but it's not and you have a lot in front of you to do and focus on! you know I have overdone that year majorly but I'm still sober because of it! Two sick people don't make a sober one and a newly sober one can't make it through that situation. You just have to face the facts during the beginning that you can't be around people that are going to drink or drug if you're serious about being sober. It doesn't work as you experienced. If you really want to change your life, you have to do what your elders in Sobriety tell you and any one of them will tell you- no relationships like that. It's too hard. I'm still having a hard time after 12+ years and that's just because i'm not finished in recovery. I haven't done all the work in Therapy. I don't know how to be around people who drink without being internally resentful that they can drink right or "socially" and I can't. I obsess over it in my head and I know those secrets or that guy that says he will keep you sober or he will make sure that you only have one- is out there and he will trick you unknowingly or intentionally into a relapse without understanding what that is or why. Please don't do it. Just try to do something in recovery on here or go to a meeting or go online to a meeting or group like this and don't go out please. I watched too many friends I had in Sobriety to some guy/girl who wasn't worth it. I personally wasted a year of my life being resentful against the father of my son because I had to be sober and he didn't and that wasn't fair! How stupid is that!? It took me some serious therapy to realize what I was missing by being upset with this man I couldn't change. Focus on your recovery, please! so that you don't waste any more years of your life doing the same thing over and over again! you know?... insanity!
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What about checking yourself into a treatment center??
Get yourself to an in-person meeting every single day. Sometimes twice a day.
Google AA meetings near you and GO.
Go to a meeting and ASK for Help.
Get a Big Book and read the first 164 pages.
Find a sponsor.
Thoroughly work ALL 12 steps with a sponsor.
I realize you don’t understand what that all means. This site is NOT recovery. What you have is “untreated” alcoholism. Recovery is working the steps in your life each day.
Best wishes for you have some work to do. 
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Focus on yourself and you will know when your ready for that I'm almost 3 yrs sober now and just now starting to feel like I'm ready to start dating
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