I saw a post today that was really interesting topic about looking for a partner in recovery and has got me thinking hard. We are always looking for something or someone to fix our loneliness and or am I prideful and ego driven. We are humans and have natural instincts. I responded to this girls post on Loosid of my last relationship that ended briefly because she relapsed. It got real nasty fast. A stepchild was involved. She only had 11 months sober. I had a little over a year at the time. But things are different for me. I had 15 years before my last relapse and near death experience. I know what I must do to stay sober and i am willing. My sponsor suggested I wait and not rush into this marriage. Not taking his suggestions and thinking ive got this “I” got in between her and her gods “growth”. I am selfish i can see this now and the damage is done. She has lost her child to CPS, she is homeless hanging back in trap houses. This all happened in a short year. I feel I have fiduciary responsibility to our fellow addics and must take this in consideration. I have to stay sober for myself and you. Hopefully i can find the right one thats had enough drink and drug. Kevin
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