Do you date want to date sober people? If so, why? If not, why?
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Its finding someone on that recovery as you not as hiding from their journey but to bring something real and location location location 
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My problem is't other ppls problem I've dated ppl that drink I just don't date Alcoholics theres a difference
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Lol truth to all of this
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That's an intriguing point of view
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I'm thinking of trying that right now having coffee with a real man in a real place, but we'll see, over a 3 year period I had 9 intense relationships that never went to the next level. So now I am absolutely determined to go out see what happens. Just to be in action is huge for me with a real person.
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In my experience, I’ve found it a bit challenging to “date” since I’ve been sober. I would like to meet someone who works a program in AA. Some people say they are “social drinkers.” Uh yeah, that’s what I called myself for years. I really can’t see myself with someone who is a “normal” drinker. It would be too tempting for me to minimize, rationalize, and glamorize the possibility of picking up a drink again. Slippery slope. I don’t want to cut myself off to meeting new people and possibly being in a relationship at some point, but I’ve been in one relationship after another all my life. My focus was always on the relationship and not taking care of myself. I trust my Higher Power has put me on the right path to meeting someone at the right time. 
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Yes, almost instant connection with someone working a program.
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Sober people for the win! You just get each other on a level that you don’t even have to explain. Plus the bonus is that sober people aren’t afraid of working on and owning the stuff they’ve gone through.
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All of this. Especially being open and working on themselves. You sound like a pro lol
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Ahhhhh ok
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Do it
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You will get yours, girl. Trust the process
This is one of my biggest struggles, glad to hear other people share here. 4 years ago I lost who I thought was the one because of my drinking. And since then I can’t find the courage to go out and date without drinking. First dates almost always lead me to benders, lying, and shame. Thinking it’s time I try to meet some sober people in my dating life.
Haha! Maybe. I’ve just done a lot of work on myself and know my worth and what I want and need. Definitely didn’t happen overnight 
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All of the feels of this
You can do it bro... when you are ready though.
It's amazing what we learn about ourselves and how we sew the world when we do self inventory.