How do you meet/date people when you don’t go to bars anymore?
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Bro, if you figure it out let me know 
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My friends going through the same thing, she created online dating app stuff and is telling them about her sobriety before they meet up, that way they already know! But if you prefer to meet people naturally, try going to things where drinking isn’t involved, like rock climbing, fitness programs, yoga, art classes, a lot of people who go to those places are into they’re health and as a result maybe stay away from alcohol. Hope that helps!
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It’s definitely difficult. I gave up on online dating. Then i joined a few hiking/biking groups on Facebook. Best thing ive ever done in many ways. Including meeting single sober people.
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Go to the Trader Joe’s frozen food section. Tons of women there!
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Yep, that's where I'm at. 
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Meetings and sober events my boy but i recommend getting well first good luck
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Online weed the drunks out you’ll be surprised how many chicks don’t even want to hang out with people that are drunks
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I found a woman through my church community, the Seventh Day Adventist church. I found her on Facebook. She was working as a domestic worker in Hong-Kong at the time. After we found each other we video chatted for 2 1/2 years before we finally met in person.. We met in the Philippines where she's from.
Months later, I talked her into leaving her job and going back home to be with her kids. She was there in the 1st place because their father had died some years before so she was the sole provider and it's hard to make money in the Philippines.
Came back to see her again 11 months later. February 28th 2019, her and her 2 kids were on their way here to the US.
We were married March 15th 2019.
Best decision I ever made.
And her and her kids (22-23) do not drink.
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You could become a pilot. You'll have plenty of opportunities then.
Great career and there is a big time pilot shortage right now.
There are more opportunities to help finace this dream these days.
Go explore who you are. What do you love to do now that you’re not wasting your life hungover or in bars?
There are people everywhere. We only think everyone drinks because we’ve only ever hung out in places where the drunks go.
Go skiing. Go to the beach. Go hiking. Go take a yoga class. Go to a book signing. Learn how to tie your own flies. Learn a new language.
I met someone recently and we have been going out a bit. I told her about my past. She responded “ok then I won’t drink when I’m with you”. Because that’s what non-alcoholics can do. They can choose another person over a drink.
You can meet amazing people on here or in meetings. Sober meetups. Church. Or even online. Lead with your truth and be honest. When the time is right your person will make their presence known to you. Or God will put that person in your path. These things are not in our control. But by improving ourselves we can increase the likelihood of meeting someone who will complement the life we want for ourselves.
Or just meet someone at work. That seems to be how most of my friends met their spouses.
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I took a leap. Searched sober, agnostic, liberal on a dating app. Found the most amazing woman, ofc nowhere close to where I currently live but that’s life. Planning a move in the near future. Take a chance, you might just be surprised by what you find. Life is too short to live it scared. I made way more reckless decisions in my drinking career. We’re both sober and making conscious decisions about our futures. Couldn’t be happier with the outcome.
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Just following bc I'm not having any luck lol 
God really brought yall together it sounds like. God bless and what an amazing testimony
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Let me know if you figure that out. 
. It’s already hard enough to date and find genuine 
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I met my wife on plenty of fish of all places lol. We celebrate 9 years of marriage tomorrow! She has stuck by my side through relapses and prison now we have a beautiful little girl and home. If you do go that route be very clear in your bio on what you are and aren't looking for. Even though I was clear that I was sober and not wanting to just hook up there were a lot of girls that reached out to me just for that and I figured it out very quickly. It was tempting every time but I had to stand my ground and keep to my boundaries. It is def possible man.
All great advice!
Church, AA. Friends of your friends. I don’t know how long you have been sober but my sponsor said no dating until a year sober. It’s worked for me and lots of other people. The first year is when our emotions are all over the place so it’s best not to make decisions like that.
I use online dating but don’t make it my defining quality. It’s def a grind though, last spark I had was with a woman who didn’t drink either off the apps. Just own who you are, a lot of women are looking for someone who isn’t a drunk mess and is addressing their mental health. It’s a positive quality to take part in self care
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