Dating while sober..I am not striking gold in this category

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Dating while sober..I am not striking gold in this category.. any thoughts?

#2

Reminds me of, “I need that like a fish needs a bicycle “

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#3

Hard to say...spent a day texting with a scammed until my bull$hit meter kicked in...

#4

I'm with you on that!!!

#5

I am not in the dating game thank goodness. It is all digital. Part of the fun was the chase. :upside_down_face:

#6

When I’ve been sober for long periods, I never dated. But I’d always get bored and go back to someone who still occasionally drinks. Then I would eventually. Got to get it in my head this time only someone who doesn’t drink. I may be single till I die….:sweat_smile: I live by the beach, it’s a tourist, drinking town!

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#7

I’ve been single for 6 years, sober for 595 days. I am told he will find me when I’m truly open and ready. I am lonely, have been for years, not lonely enough to settle though. So I’m trusting the universe and when I’m truly ready, I’ll find love again.

I avoided feelings and emotions for so many years and I’m extremely independent, this is a trauma response. I am healing and learning that just because I can do everything in life alone, doesn’t mean I should or that I have too.

I hope you find what your soul needs to thrive, I hope we all do!

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#8

Ahh your response is beautiful! Don’t ever settle! You are worthy of a deeper kind of love! :hugs:

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#9

Thank you for that, I appreciate you.

#10

This is exactly how I feel

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#11

I’m right here with you, you are not alone💛

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#12

You girls got that right. I went sober cause I drank to deal with these guys that were ot right...AT least that was alot of my reasons for drinking...in other words if it's not right stay single. It takes a lite whe but I like to date and have multiple people to do things with. No commitments no Sex. No demands. All kinds of people. I like to go places and even travel alone. I always meet nice people. Just be careful and smart about it and uou can be fine. I'm totally loving it! Am I lonely for a "relationship"?...sometimes. But it's in God's hands now. However, I DO NOT recommend looking or trying to keep a relationship while getti.g sober period. Just not the best idea for success.

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#13

Hi Angela, just think it's funny when you say you never dated while sober. I know what you mean. I had a boyfriend really cuss me out because he said everytime I decided to stop drinking, I didn't want to have anything to do with him. And boy, was he right on. I usually hooked up with other alcoholics or druggies when drinking. Everytime I decided to quit drinking, I couldn't stand any of the guys I was with, would never give them a second thought if sober. Mistakes of being intoxicated!

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#14

So true! Seemed to only be when I felt like drinking again :woman_shrugging:t2: then leave them when I needed to be sober. They would always make promises, but nothing changed so I had to. My ex of a month got engaged last weekend but so happy since there would not be any chance for him lie his way back. Shocked but relieved!! My love is out there but I’m over here loving myself…or trying to!

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#15

Keep trying to love yourself. Sometimes I think the root of the whole problem is self-esteen issues. I never felt worthy of any of the good things that happened to me. Always feeling as if didn't deserve happiness or anything going my way. I think I've always been my worst own enemy. Really. Just try to forget your ex of a month. You deserve so much more. Stop worrying about all the love you could give someone and love yourself!

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#16

Were you striking gold when you were intoxicated?

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#17

Ex of 3 years, got engaged 3 weeks after we broke up!

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#18

That’s where I’m at too. Just going it alone. I’m starting to think I’m not so bad though. lol. There may be somebody out there for me some day but I’m not trying to rush it.

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#19

Attract not chase. When I shift my mindset to attract what I want in life life brings me what I want. It’s a beautiful mindset to have. Yes there is work involved and each will have their own experience attracting. Enjoy :wink: meditation is the key to a peaceful life

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#20

I'm single about 15 yrs. Full on alcoholic the better part of the last 5+ yrs. The women I dated didn't seem to care whether I drank or not and I didn't worry myself about it. The 2 times I relapsed I did it all on my own stupid self. I know now I can't have 1. I hope I never forget it. Thanks for letting me speak

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