Is it me or people are scared of dating a sober person 
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It’s you. Sober folks date all the time. It’s just strange when you are newly sober. Give it some time. The weirdness will wear off. 
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I feel there’s a stigma
I believe so. I think many people associate sober with boring 
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Im implying non-sober people too, and never had problems with dating before. But I get your point
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Yes that’s what I meant. It was particularly weird dating a drinker in early sobriety. Dating others in recovery helped there.
I know for me when I was drinking, I didn’t trust people who didn’t drink. That was a deal breaker.
I would bet 95% of us wouldn’t date someone who didn’t drink while we were drinking. If we’re honest with ourselves. No stigma, just the way it is. IMO
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Interesting, I would date sober folks back then. But I get that it may be weird indeed.
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I never dated guys who drank when I was drinking. I liked having a companion who knew what was going on lol. Someone who could do the driving. I think it’s harder to meet people now that I’m sober. I don’t know if it’s because I’m less outgoing or because I don’t go out like I used to. The other day when I was at work a customer asked me out. I thought about going but then I thought about having to tell him I was sober. I don’t want to go through all that with everybody I meet. Dating is hard enough already.
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Yep. Shoot, I’m scared to date AS a sober person lol
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Haha..I think I’m the judgmental one. Me: Oh, you drink, yeah we’re gonna have to break that down more. Only on occasion…sure, that’s what I used to say. 
I’m just not convinced my lifestyle aligns with a typical drinking persons and I’m ok with that. It definitely narrows down the dating pool though, if you are only looking for a sober person.
(Also, those comments were meant snarky, I know some people or fully capable of controlled drinking.)
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It says more about them then you in my opinion. In my dating years I remember thinking well if they don’t take me as I am then they’re doing me a favor because they aren’t my person then.
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I started serious dating/talking to people 2 weeks ago. Prior to that I attended a relationship with an alcoholic still new to sobriety and it blew up in my face. More recently the addict I am talking to does not seem like it will work for various reasons. I did speak with someone that cut the commutation because I am an alcoholic, he husband die from alcoholism, totally understandable. I met another lady that saw my fb post about being sober and asked if her occasional drinking would be a red flag. I was thinking the opposite. I figured my sobriety would run people off. We have our second date tonight. Based on this experience I think there is no correct answer. A non-alcoholics dating history will probably up and down in similar fashion. All I can do is know what I am worth and not but up with abusive people. I have good self esteem for the first time that I can remember and I don’t plan on losing.
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Uggg dating 
I am 100% convinced dating someone from an app is a complete waste of time . Sober a year next month and honestly dating doesn’t interest me in the least , I’m my own best date
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It’s definitely not you! I never would go out with a sober guy before this summer and my eventually becoming sober. It was a red flag for me if he didn’t drink because my life revolved around drinking rituals. Now I’m struggling to find sober guys to date because I don’t want to date a drinker.
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Ha! In my experience only people that drink a lot are fearful of dating sober people. Don’t trip, give it time.
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Thanks folks! Quite helpful. 
On kinda a different note. I gave family who hasn’t spoken to me in my 3 years of sobriety but now realizing that they are so heavy with their own drinking that they are afraid of reality. Sad very sad I just would love to help them.
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