Dealing with a break up in early sobriety! F*ck!
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Be single. Focus on you and loving yourself.
Just know that your brain is gonna give you any excuse it can, so you feel like you have a good reason to sign off on your _____ problem. If you don't stay sober, you will loose everyone and everything. The only person that wants you to get f*ck'd up is you, the bar, or your plug. This is a program of action every day and you will have a chance at saying sober. I wish you nothing but the best, but I'm not gonna tell you bulls**t
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Break ups are tough at any point in life or recovery. Reality is 90% of relationships come to an end. It’s life on life terms. Overcome this early in recovery and you will have a useful tool in you’re toolbox to pull out any time you have to face adversity and persevere through a challenging period in you’re recovery. Build a support system and use them to help get you through. Take the burning desire at meetings and find a sponsor and start working the steps immediately. Can’t go wrong with any of that
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Ohhhh not fun
U have to treat every single issue just like u do relapse
Thought stop don’t think about what u cannot control literally u just focus on this moment what ur doing right now and sometimes I did that bawling on my knees for God to help me not go dope it up and say f it all
One day at a time
Keep urself busy
The more time and space between u and the event the easier and less painful it will be
But
Time takes time
And I hated that saying
But it’s true
U cannot heal from a painful loss overnight it’s just impractical
Allow urself to feel sad or angry for five or ten min yell scream cry cuss whatever
Then be done and do something to help someone less fortunate than u
There is no better defense than working with another less fortunate person and getting ur mind off ur own misfortunes
U will heal in time
Til then help others
Go to meetings
Work the steps
Repeat
Repeat again
Before u know it u will feel like a whole new powerful woman because there is nothing that can defeat u unless u let it and the only limits we have are the ones we put on ourself
U can do this! 
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Thank you for this. I needed it!
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Sorry, that is no fun. Keep your head up and push on. 
Stay strong don't let it lead to relapse. Life happens what doesn't break us makes us stronger
It wii make you stronger.90&90 meetings.do for you!!!!!
Sorry Cara- that sucks. But remind yourself that picking up isn’t going to make the situation better. And the best part about being single is that you get to focus on just you! Date yourself, and learn how to really love yourself. In the long run you’ll be better off- and you may even find someone who is 100 times better than your ex! It happens! Trust the process! 
It's never easy, but you can make it. Use your support system.
the fucking worst.. stay strong it gets better
After spending 7 1/2 years in prison I got out and was doing amazing making 34 dollars an hour in the union, then I got with a girl I met in work release and she fucked me off so cold. I really loved her and I wasn't strong enough to stand on my own two feet. I used ever excuse to fall back into drugs. You have to realize heart break is part of life. And if that relationship didn't work, it wasn't meant to be and someday you will look back and laugh and appreciate the good and bad that game from that relationship, it helps you grow, helps you know what you truly want and deserve ... The pain will be there even if you do drugs ..... You'll not only loose that relationship and be heart broken but you'll loose your life and break the hearts of your family and friends. Just saying my experience ended badly abd I wish I had someone to just tell me to deal with the pain. Time truly does heal all wounds. And there's someone else out there that will treat you like a queen, that will cherish you and finally give you the happiness you deserve.
Anytime cara
Dealing with breakups regardless of how much time we have can be painful. No relationship is worth my sobriety. Drinking alcohol isn’t the problem or is it the solution to my problems. My thinking is my problem. My emotions are my problem. Lack of understanding how to deal or cope with my problems is my focus in sobriety.
Write a fourth step on your breakup. This will help you see why you’re angry or have and fear. It will Also see how our ego is affected by this anger. If our sex conduct was affected by this anger as well. We must work our program daily to keep our side of the street clean.
As a reminder AA as a whole doesn’t say or recommend anything about relationship in early sobriety. It’s up to the individual’s on path. If your emotionally ready then by all means seek happiness. For me I too jumped in a relationship early on and had to go through a few breakups. Now I can say that I’m not emotionally ready to be in a committed relationship. Stay sober my friend! Life will give us ups and downs. It’s how we respond that can lead to peace within.
Honestly entering sobriety solo is a good thing. One if the tasks you have ahead of you is to uncomplicate your life. Nothing is more complicated than a relationship - especially a broken one. Time to tell your ex 'dont go away mad, just go away,"
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