Im having a really difficult time. I keep drinking. Im going to detox and hopefully rehab after. Its just getting out of control. I dont like who i am when im drunk. I need to be healthy for my adult children especially since my husband died 4 weeks ago. Im scared. I hate detox and rehab lol . Everyone does i guess. I just need encouragement, good stories about being sober. Im just really nervous.
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I can tell you other people's stories did not encourage me at all. They actually made me resentful. I had to find my own reason and accept my own recovery journey as mine and no one else's. Sorry for your loss.
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I am sorry for you loss, and you got this. I know first hand what it’s like I relapse so many times, I did the detox and rehab thing as well and didn’t like it. This around I did on my own and that because I just got tired and just hate who I was when I drink. What am saying is, only you will know when you are ready. Just remember it’s all about people places and things you have to stay away from. You got this
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20 days clean im grateful i can suggest this being brand new to recovery again. Find your tribe and a meeting was the best place to go for me. I have ppl surrounding me that are concerned about how I feel and what im feeling. My heart is with you. Its life or death for me. All the best luck and encouragement.
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Go in with an open mind and heart. Remember why you're there and focus on just that. Take it one day at a time. Or what worked for me 1 second at a time
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Pray pray,pray, pray and pray about it and believe what you 
for, it will happen. Speak it into existence your words are powerful. Don't say I can't but I can overcome any through Yah(God).Hope this helps.
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The detox is by far the hardest part. Once you're over that hump, rehab is annoying at first but you'll likely meet some friends and enjoy some parts of it. Try not to over indulge on the high sugar foods they try to pump into you at all of them. I've gained weight every time. But it's all good bc if you remain abstinent from alcohol, you inevitably lose a good bit of weight, become less bloated, skin clears up, emotions start to come back, which can be hectic at times but good to feel again depending on how heavily and how long you were drinking 🤷. Anyhow, sobriety will be one of the best choices of your entire life. It just takes some time to realize it. The physical/mental benefits start coming fairly quickly though, so look forward to that. Just be patient and as was mentioned above, start to figure out your triggers of persons, places, and things to avoid relapse. But it's not the end of the world if you do. Most of us relapse a few times. I've been sober 99.317% of the past 5 years with several relapses in there ....still trying to figure out those triggers. One Day at a time! Good luck and holler if ya have any questions.
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I’m only here to make suggestions based on what helped me.
Stay positive.
Stay moving and occupy yourself with what you can do to make the day , hour or even each minute a lil better each day.
Even if you can’t relate to others in sobriety that doesn’t mean what they have to say is useless To you we all have differences but most importantly we also have similarities. Also focus on you.
Leave all outside worldly affairs there outside especially when you go to a facility.
Also nothing is as important as saving your life so when you’re willing don’t wait .
Get your tale where you need to be and let the professionals do their jobs. Try not focusing on what you feel you didn’t get done or still have to do, rather give yourself a break by realizing that now you have the chance you need to relax considering the emotions the feelings and possible run of dts.
Don’t avoid those…
they are all, in my opinion,
Part of the self care necessary to start our journey to anything considered successful as far as recovery is concerned
Remember use is the resolution that our insanity tells us we need for some underlined cause
We do not yet understand or even realize exist in the first place…
In short love yourself!
You deserve it! I
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Get a female sponsor from an AA meeting and do what she says.
It gets worse before it gets better but wow does it get better.
Being scared is a good thing, it means you care. Do it when you're ready.
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Chandra, you will be fine. You’re definitely on the right path. Enjoy your journey. It’s an amazing adventure.
I’m here if you want to talk
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U made the right choice. Stick with it
Just always remember your motivation. Always remember why you're getting sober. Think about it always