When in active addiction it seems horrific to lose “friends” but in active recovery it’s a blessing in disguise. You truly realize with a clear head who you can and can’t count on and who actually has your best interest at heart. It was worth the losses in the long run, a lot of weight lifted off my shoulders, in my experience of course. I read somewhere “I wonder how much that weighs me down isn’t mine to carry” and I loved it because I felt this could apply in many aspects of anyones life.
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And so much negativity
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I lost most of my friends while drinking so now they are just glad to have me back.
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It depends on who you call friends
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Yep, almost all of them. I found without alcohol, we really didn’t have a lot in common and couldn’t hold an engaging Conversation
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I did it was over 28 years ago her name was Angie but she never used or drank alcohol. I told her I was going to na and AA meetings and told her boyfriend and she freaked out and I never heard from her again.... Idiotic she was but I do understand.
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cool
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Good to hear
I understand
You sure did, made a good decision 
That's true
I'm still friends with people I used to get high with.
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I lost just about all my friends.. but I’ve realized the people I was surrounding myself with were also people who would never call me out on my destructive ways because they were doing the same things. It hurts, & have found myself grieving those connections, but I really do believe it’s for the best.
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My ex best friend from high school thought I was nuts so my mom told me I have better taste in knowing people.
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It didn't cost me as many as using did.
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To be honest I did lose friends. Some I lost because of my chaos when I was using, others just dropped me because I decided not to use anymore. I struggle with it a lot. I would say for my advice to you that I’m trying to do is work on yourself and be comfortable with yourself and good people will come to you in the end. I’m still early in my recovery and not gonna lie I feel pretty alone, but as long I’m good to myself things will change. If you have friends bail on you because you wanna be sober then they ain’t your friends.
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If you did lose friends because you quit alcohol and drugs, then they weren't your friends in the first place. Don't worry, you will soon have better friends.
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I have had a bff forever. We are so similar and have been through he*l and back. She was the one that planted the seed of an addictions therapist before I ever hit rock bottom. She also recommended meditation back when I had a colicky baby. I’m so grateful to her. Acceptance has been key.
As everyone else said, the others weren’t friends. They don’t want you to change-that would mean they have to change. I agree about the negativity-I can’t be around the “stinking thinking,” the chaos, the drama, the poor decision making…and that’s when they aren’t drinking!
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I understand 🥲
I did, well it really just shifted, you have a lot of decisions to make when you get sober. And who you keep in your life and where you place them is definitely one of them. Good luck to you! 
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