Distractions

Recovery
#1

I’ve been pondering and thinking …
life is one big distraction…?
yes, no, ?
we are all just waiting around distracting ourselves until death do us part
? is having a boyfriend just a distraction from me truly working on myself.
is tough because i’m head over heels for this man. i don’t want to mess it up. and i also need to focus on my mental health recovery.
I also know it’s best to wait at least a year in sobriety until you start getting yourself into serious relationships……..
But「(°ヘ°)
i haven’t dated someone in a year sooooooo i did wait a year lol just not fully sober …
regardless i am going to pursue this relationship rn
he makes me very happy
he is sober and a healthy guy

What’s your opinion on sobriety and relationships???? ヾ(´･･｀｡)ノ

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#2

Page 117 from the 12 steps 12 traditions states this..

"Nearly every sound human being experiences, at some
time in life, a compelling desire to find a mate of the opposite s*x with whom the fullest possible union can be made
—spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. This mighty
urge is the root of great human accomplishments, a creative energy that deeply influences our lives. God fashioned
us that way. So our question will be this: How, by ignorance, compulsion, and self-will, do we misuse this gift for
our own destruction? We A.A.’s cannot pretend to offer
full answers to age-old perplexities, but our own experience
does provide certain answers that work for us."

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#3

To be or not to be

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#4

Energy is everything walk spiritually and it will fall in place god willing

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#5

A year sober before dating is a good suggestion.

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#6

Personally I dated and then about 4 months ago something happened to me spiritually and mentally in a good :+1: way and I now , know I don’t need a relationship with anyone to be happy :blush: just sobriety, god, & my family!! So in other words hun if it’s meant to be for you both you will know but when you’re head gets clearer and clearer if you’re not meant to be your going to know and along sobriety it’s quite a up and down journey we’re sometimes your going to leave people behind that you never thought you would and the more sober time you get it will start going naturally into place. Hopefully this helps just sharing my experience with my 4 year 5 months & 2 days of my journey so far with this same situation. Have a wonderful day and weekend and best of luck on your journey. :v:

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#7

thank you for sharing !!! im definitely feeling it out and he is an awesome guy. he is so sweet to me. i’ve never felt this way about someone. he is also sober so that’s rlly cool. i’ve never dated someone who was sober….
i appreciate your words

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