Does anyone else find sobriety lonely? I used to think i had so many friends but now that I'm sober I found out quick that they were all just drinking buddies 
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Yes, those who we thought were our friends were in all actuality just there to drink with.
To avoid the loneliness it is suggested that we start working with others.
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Very much so. As soon as I didn't have money or drugs for people everyone that "loved me so much" disappeared so fast. I literally have 2 friends that have stuck around n also gotten clean
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I guess we don't need many as long as we have even one good one, I have my daughter and my son who are the only sober people in my life. And that's ok but sometimes it's lonely 
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Ur right I do have all of my grown children who I'm very close to again which does help
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My kids are the biggest supporters of my sobriety, it helps a great deal that they have forgiven me in my dark days.
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Yes I feel that way sometimes, I have to be ok in my own skin. I still with my friends that drink I choose not to.
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Yes, definitely When I first got sober I felt extremely lonely. When I was getting high everyone was at my house. After I got sober then everyone vanished even the girl I considered my best friend. I made new sober friends though and I have my kids. So it's gotten easier. Hang in there.
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I'm learning that, I've never done anything by myself until now, it doesn't bother me that people drink around me, my husband still drinks, it's just after they hit a certain point of drunk they become annoying lol and living in a small Wisconsin town where there is a bar on every corner there isn't much else to do. I guess I need to find myself a hobby 
Thank you 
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Do not listen to the worst of u ....don't allow your imagination to take over 
I have been sober 5 years now. Is it lonely? Sometimes yes. I had to cut out a part of my life that wasn’t working for me 5 years ago. There were longtime friends that either didn’t understand or weren’t comfortable with my sobriety. They in turn stopped calling, texting or reaching out. It is a sometimes solitary path to sobriety for me. I go to meetings l and am connected. I have just learned that things are different now and the quieter different pace and focus is better for me. Is it lonely? Sometimes. Is it better this way? For me certainly yes!
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I agree, it is sometimes lonely but I'd rather be lonely than go back to the way things were almost 2 years ago. Sept is my 2 year soberversary. It's hard doing it alone but I'll be ok. Thank you I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this.
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You’re not alone! We’re all in this together!
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Yup
Same here sis. i realized it’s better to not have all those fake friends in my life . i had no one left . i started going to AA meetings full time for the first time in 3 years and i have beautiful people to do things with now. i’m going to canada for the AA convention w 2 women i met in AA . 1 i met 2 years ago & the other less than 2 months ago. i just went to a breathwork class tonight & there were 30 people i recognized from the meetings . we all laid in a yard in a coffee orchard . The View of the ocean , and sunset was amazing when we took our eye masks off it was dark and some were out!!!! check out the local meetings please
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Yes girl I totally can relate ,matter of fact hey will you be my first friend in.sobriety? You know it's almost like being dead everyone talks about me as in the past tense.
Right, awww she used to be so much fun... I'm still fun but now I can remember the fun I have 
Only person that loves me is Jesus 
For me getting sober meant being alone and stop all communication with people from my past. It can get lonely yes but eventually you'll make friend's that are in recovery as well. I hope you gain some good friendships