I am about 7 months sober and feel like I basically just reached a point where the high of getting sober and life will be okay is wearing off. I’m not saying I even have an urge to drink instead I’m pissed off rn I can’t?! Like pissed off I am not normal compared to others? I’m in this annoying lil pity party but truly honestly don’t feel like I have many that I can relate too anymore… It’s lonely and fcking boring. 🥹
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We all go through this. It’s a program of action. When these feelings crop up it’s time to be of service. It’s a sure solution to self pity.
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I felt Iike that in my first few months sober, one thing I started to realize was that not all of my friends were "normal" drinkers. Some are just as bad as me. It was a really weird realization, but it served me well.
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I would feel surprised if you did n o t feel this way?
Many of us have felt what you are describing…it can be easy to “ romanticize “ how great substances are.
I mean.
Drinking is completely glorified.
It is a lot of societal conditioning…and also, along the lines of the advertising industry and these companies that want to steal your time, money and life…all they care about is selling their idiotic poison.
Making their profits.
They could care less if you waste your life and potential away.
In fact, these greedy b turds just want your money.
Oh, wait.
I already noted that, har?!
It is an empty life-drinking, using.
Give it some time…what you are feeling sounds and seems normal.
Congratulations on staying sober!
It IS a big deal.
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I tend to relapse out of boredom
Thank you. I think a lot of it has to do with summer approaching. I live in Michigan where the nice weather and drinking go hand in hand and everything seems to revolve around it. And yes most my friends and family drink. Not so easy in the winter when we’re all inside anyway and it doesn’t seem as obvious. It’s definitely different to be sober and finding things/people to be around that will not trigger me as well which is nothing to do with anyone else - but me still figuring things out. It can feel lonely but I know I’m not alone. 
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You are most certainly not alone, Samantha!
Yes.
Weather, the seasons DO induce triggers.
( I feel ).
My drinking became out of control when I lived in MA…I was far away from friends, family.
I could not hold down steady work.
Could not stand the winters there.
Alcohol kept me company.
I remember being willing to slip on stupid ice…as long as I had access to booze.
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…I am more than ever realizing that boredom and loneliness are a part of life.
I feel as if things like substances, social media…stuff like this…these are illusions.
They are portrayed as aspects that supposedly bring us together.
Society, we need new traditions-things that do not involve putting poison into our systems.
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Like Matt said we all go thru this. I remember months 7-9 were my hardest 
stay the course 
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Samantha..You can get through this. Been sober for 3 and a half years and it was hard at first but I was to fight and stay sober. I stayed away from friends and family who drinks but I finally got over it. We hang out like normal and they drink what they want and I drink what I want. Hang in there if will get better. Just fight and stay strong and sober.
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I turned that boredom into what can be positive. I walk ALOT and try to ride my bike. This really helped me also I’ve inspired two others into sobriety. They said seeing me really helped them.
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Hey Samantha. Thank you for sharing. I know the feeling. I have been struggling a lot with boredom and loneliness. I do my best to keep myself occupied. I go to the gym. I read. Watch movies. And, come in here. Message me anytime you need to . You got this.
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Life is a test. Being pissed weakens yur immune system. Laughter strengthens it. Be grateful for yur sobriety n wht yu have. It gets better.
Good morning Samantha.
Yes it does. I can truly testify to that. I know it’s cliché to hear
But it works if you work it.
I used to hate hearing that. but I love it after working my steps and working with others and doing service work. I’ve truly changed and life does get better.
Normal people don't drink a truck load of alcohol and think it's normal haha. Normal people have 1 or 2 which doesn't even get them buzzed. We liked to get fucked up, that's our problem. That is not normal.
Find new health hobbies! Go to young people’s meetings get a sober crew and hangout! Hit the movies go bowling swim in the lake or fish! A million sober things to do get creative