I relasped so hard and i am trying to find the will to start my sobriety again. I went out with a guy that is going through a divorce. He told me he divorced six months ago. That was a lie. He talked about his ex like it just happened. On our fourth date, we held each other so lovingly and kissed like a bunch of teens. I was so happy but yet so scared so I did some snooping and i found his divorces still in process. Whats sick is that December 1 was the day we started talking and thats the same day he filed for divorce. His ex filed her divorce with a TRO on August 11. Its just alot and I am traumatized. I also didnt like that he called me names like dumb idiot. I know he was excited and the connotation was not bad but still i dont like people calling me bad names
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I tried dating in early recovery and it didn’t go well. A couple years in it got better. I’m sorry that happened to you.
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They say 1 year as a general rule and yeah most of the time that is sound advice. You really need to do the work on yourself before you're any good for someone else
Sorry that happened to you. What stinks is I think most of us come across these not so nice people in our life. And it sucks
It took me a hot minute to get comfortable being with myself but once I did I really enjoyed the idea of doing what I want when I want. I’ve been able to explore things / hobbies that make me happy. I hope you’re able to fight thru and be your best and happiest self!!
I'm sorry that happened to you 