I have always had severe anger issues and most of that came to the surface when I was drunk. Here I am almost 9 months sober and I’m still struggling with explosive anger problems. Does anyone else struggle with this?
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I learned that drinking is but a symptom of a soul sickness. Not having the ability to deal with life on life’s terms. After ~6 years of sobriety, I stopped working on myself (AA) and my anger issues surfaced again. Mostly in my marriage, but also at my job. Thankfully, I didn’t get drunk but I thought about drinking. That scared me so I dove back into AA and I’m doing much better. Even with that relationship ending. I have come to believe that anger is a function of soul sickness too. That is something I personally can’t afford so I have to work on myself.
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One of the things I’ve come to realize since getting sober is you can have an emotion without becoming the emotion. So you can feel anger but don’t have to become angry, if that makes sense. It’s a choice and takes practice but it’s been helpful.
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The steps of recovery have largely alleviated mine, previously I was explosive. I worked the steps through AA then through ACA
Same boat as you, but I did Anger Management first, and then AA. I think both are like eating really healthy if you have a serious illness. Does the healthy eating help, of course! Will healthy eating cure Lymphoma, no, no it will not. Cutting out the booze HELPS with my anger, but I had to deal with the anger as a separate issue to find success there. That was my path, yours could well be different, but trying some group therapy for your anger certainly couldn’t hurt.
I’m the same exact way …. An angry drunk … message me if u want to talk
Drinking is like taking a tanker truck full of gas to a fire for angry people. After you steer clear of the drink, you still need to work on the anger. Get a sponsor, do the step work and share, share, share about your anger! Best of luck to you in your journey.