Dysfunctional sponsor

Im native i have a cacassion sponsor i live wheres theres more cacassion at aa meetings had my sponsor 10 years she says she cares but at her convince when were alone sometimes or when we talk on phone sometimes but when we are at our homegroup she gives me dirty looks acts like i dont exist she acts privileged she dont care if im crying or feeling emotional at our meeting she only talks to other people i tried talking to her about my emotions last tuesday at fellowship before anybody came and sat down she didn't care so i just got quiet stayed quiet everyone was fellowshiping it was loud in resturant she was like mad at me for whatever reason telling me how bad i am this happened so many times before i just left the restaurant and went home told her i was going home she said bye haven't talked to her since not sure if i will confronted her before she just says im not perfect once she said she was sorry then shes good fo couple weeks maybe a month then does the same thing its like she only cares at her convince so fustrated and feel so done

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It definitely sounds like you need a New Sponsor. You do not deserve to go through this. I’m serious you matter you are important so important you have to put you first and that means protecting your recovery. It sounds like she’s harming it. You deserve the very best and She is not it. I firmly believe that people come in our life sometimes just for a season. I’m here if you need to talk.

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Nancy, get a new sponsor. I had many different sponsors over the years.
Once I was asked how many drug dealers I had, or how many bars and liquor stores I went to? My answer was as many as possible!
Then why did I think I should have only one sponsor?
Sponsors are merely guides thru the 12 steps.
I’m here if you want to talk

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Don't give up , remember no matter how hard it gets keep on . You need a new sponser to .

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You may want to seek a new sponsor. This community is here for support and your fellowship should be a safe space, not to alienate you. Your sponsor may not be the right fit but there are many, if not temporary sponsors that you may have more of a connection with. Stay strong, Stay positive🙏