Even though I am doing pretty good in my recovery, I get short and somewhat defensive for some reason to my significant other whenever we talk about it. I don’t know why that is. The conversations aren’t even bad - just simple questions like “so how are you doing“. It triggers something inside of me. Probably past guilt and shame. It’s like it’s a never-ending conundrum with this fricking disease..
I don’t know your story for me. It’s different. I got onto here to meet people because my partner has been using the entirety of my five years of recovery. Maybe she just doesn’t know how to ask. I think when we’re so far different from our partner and I don’t know maybe she just doesn’t know how to ask, but she wants to be active in your recovery, but she doesn’t know how.