Everything takes forever? I have such a hard time saying something without getting tripped up because my thoughts are always racing. I have a fear speaking in front of groups of people and keep forgetting what I have to say and everything comes out jumbled? Any advice?
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Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. Give yourself some grace. I struggled a lot with this in my first couple of months. It kinda took me a while to form full sentences (no joke). I was going to meetings and was terrified of speaking, I would stutter, go blank, hyperventilate etc. Everyone was kind and understanding, and over time it’s gotten better because I’m kind and understanding with myself now, too.
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Thank you V, good to know I'm not alone? I'm coming up on 60 days clean? I don't have any confidence, I walk into the meetings and it seems like everyone is staring at me? I really appreciate your kind words!
Take notes, I do. It definitely helps me. I take notes on the things that I hear that I like and want to remember. I also take notes about what I wanna say, And if I don’t get to share I’ll still have my notes… And they can redo my notes or add to my notes and share next time, but I’ll be more prepared. But the best advice I can think of is to keep doing it. You have a little over 30 days until you hit 90 days clean… So if you shared once a day until your 90 days, I bet on that 90 other day you’d have much more confidence (because of your experience) i’m not saying it will be easier, I’m saying you will become more skilled🎉
Exercise helps and practice.. my brain is still moving faster than my speaking and then half way thru I lose my train of thought. It’s getting a lot better tho I’m also not as hard on myself as I was. I find now that it’s only bad where it’s noticeable in certain situations but it’s getting better. Give yourself time
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Your brain is rewiring it’s self. Give it time.
What are you grateful for?
Slow your mind down by forcing it to think of the past and the present moments. And being grateful for those things that have already passed will create more to be grateful for in each future moment.
I wish I’d have realized this piece of it at the time, just the realization of what was going on might have been a bit easier to handle.
I know exactly how you feel ,I've always been a loner,better listener than speaker,I hope you can find an answer 