When I went through my divorce, I drank because I was so sad and thought who will ever love me again? I was a horrible toxic wreck. Well now that I’ve quit drinking, I’m falling in love with myself. I needed to be ok with me and happy with me, myself and I! Im falling in love with the person in the mirror. I no longer sit in pity for myself.
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Nice post! I couldn’t run and escape myself anymore. It was literally killing me and destroying everyone around me. Alcohol is a just symptom. For me, recovery has been a journey back to early childhood to understand, rewire, and heal. Keep living in the solution ODAAT
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I have always had very low self esteem. It is getting better but takes time. I have a tendency to take thing’s people say, as criticism and become depressed and defensive. I went through our separation sober right after I made a year. I beat myself up so bad l could barely function. The divorce process is still to come. Only my high power and the people he put in my life kept me sober. Changing the way you think about yourself is one of the hardest things we will ever do.
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You have every right to love your solitude. Being alone doesn’t always mean you are lonely... what i do of all the important things you must do today, there is none greater than showing kindness to your heart 🩶
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That Is wonderful!!! You are a winner. Staying clean must come first. Staying connected is just as important. I never been married, but I can relate. I'm learning how to love myself. Deal with my emotions and feelings with a sober mind. It is hard but I pray everyday that God guide me through it. I will pray that my God will continue to bless you with strength, courage, and hope for you and those babies of yours. You're beautiful and You are loved by God.
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Glad to hear it Congranulations Sugar
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This. This is what people forget most of the time.
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This is beautiful.
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Love what you wrote, sounds nice!..Maybe I need to take a better look at myself. Thank you
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Exactly, just because I’m single doesn’t always mean ready to mingle. I want to love me and confident in who I am before I’ll be ready to let someone in. Drinking really brought me down and I felt like a failure.
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You're not a failure, soil was just tainted and surrounded by weeds. The sun still shines, now just thrive 
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Wow.
Fantastic awareness.
My sponsor asked me to stay out of relationships for a while until I could figure out who the heck I was. Best advice that I was ever given. I learned during that time that I was codependent too.
Today I am very happily married and I couldn't have done it without getting to know myself first!
Most people would do very well to stay out of relationships in the beginning and give themselves a chance to learn who they really are. This can't be done without spending a significant time outside of any relationship.
Happy for you. And you are miles ahead in recovery with that awareness. One day you will meet the right person and you will realize what a smart decision it was.
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Yes! This was me too. And now I’m making an amends to myself and working on building a better relationship; working together not as enemies. Taking some time but gradually it’s gotten better. And I can honestly look back in the mirror with love, compassion and trust vowing to not quit before the miracle.
That’s one I struggle with
I feel that went through something similar thanx
So happy for you Liz! I'm also learning to love myself again? I'm sober almost 6 months, and divorced almost a year? I know I'm not ready for a relationship yet but it feels good to know that I like who I am? There is still work to be done and I want nothing but love for the people in my past but the future looks bright 
! Thank you Liz and God Bless
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Absolutely agree!!!