I've decided to remove myself from my immediate family, siblings, mother etc. Why? Because it does not matter if I'm sober in recovery, or in throws of addiction I am not welcome, invited, included. I'm currently 2 months sober from alcohol. I've had long stints of sobriety in the past, still not accepting, isolation. I moved here 5 years ago to be closer to my mom from a different city, not once have I been involved, invited to a holiday meal, birthday, any get together. For my own mental health and recovery I've decided to just remove myself and live a happy sober life away from them, and keep surrounding myself with sober support. Yes, I'm in therapy and that helps a great deal.
I wonder how many others on this app had too or has dealt with the same situation as me. Instead of allowing resentments set in like I did in the past, I've let them go, I've dealt with them and better off mentally and spiritually because of it. I can finally say after all these years of turmoils and heartache from family members, I've found peace.
Hi Teresa;
Sorry to hear what you're going through, especially during the holidays.
I did some stupid and crazy stuff around my family while drunk. It took more than two months of sobriety for them to accept that I was actually sober and maintaining it.
Keep working on yourself and your program. Don't be too hard on them, give them time.
God bless and happy Thanksgiving.
At my meeting this morning we talked a lot about how we’ve found family in AA! Family is the people who stand by you through thick and thin. They’re the people that call when you’re struggling and are excited and proud when you’re succeeding. Distancing from the family you were born to must be hard, but if it’ll save you from heartbreak then you should! You can always reconnect in the future. For now, try to find family in your recovery!
I completely understand and I’m on the same page. I hope you’re doing OK.
@teresa392434 Dude!!! I can 
% relate. I got sober on Christmas Day in 1988. They couldn't and still can't, for the most part, don't get as to why I sobered up. Even after some of them picked up a few DUI'S or passed on due to liver failure. They still don't get it.
I, too, was not included in the holidays, birthdays and milestones.
You're not the only one who is going through it. There are countless others on this platform that can relate.
This is why we promote unity here because you're not alone in this.
You can do this my friend. Add me if you'd like to talk.
I am going through that also but I came to realize I got to worry about me.
I have also done the same. so I completely understand. I see and appreciate you. if you need to talk, I’m here because I’ve done the exact same thing
Teresa, I had similar experiences. My emotional sobriety has become my number one priority. I’ve created a new family with my sober brothers and sisters.
Just because we were born into a family doesn’t necessarily mean anything. Go create loving relationships with anyone you want💞
Sound's healthy
I'm sorry to hear this, and I'm here for you.
Family stuff like this can really hurt, I'm sure many have. A lot of us know what it feels like to be on the outside looking in, no matter how much work we’re doing. You choosing your mental health and sobriety you're doing exactly what you should be doing. This is your sobriety and you are worth it and it's worth protecting.
We're here for you. Sober support can carry you a long way