I’m content with my life. Working my program. At peace with the ending of my 2nd marriage.
I moved home with my father. Mother passed away many years ago (she did see me sober!). My father has 3 hospital stays in as many years recently. Those were a direct result of alcohol. He has been home for 4-5 months after his most recent stay. He was told he has cirrhosis. He stopped drinking but is clearly drinking again. I refuse to look in his hiding spots. I haven’t yet called him on it. But when he asked me when my daughters graduation day is for the 5th time my resentment towards him is mounting. I sit in the other room. I avoid more than a 10 minute conversation. I’m trying to be a loving son, but I’m not sure I can stay here. It’s just a matter of time. Idk. Any one have any experience with this. It sucks to watch someone die of this disease when you personally know a way out
I’ve had to explain to my fam that I’ve got short tolerance “currently “ - whenever I’m with them, that I need to leave or be alone and it’s a matter of life or death. And if they don’t understand that’s on them, being selfish, not respecting your needs and boundaries. You gotta do YOU. I’d rather make them mad than feel pushed back to using. Just my experience hope it helps
Hi Matt, I have had this experience with a close family member. His addiction was food He died of complications from obesity. I was not sober when he passed. communication is a big part of recovery. I regret not communicating more with him because I was scared he would fall into a depression. We talked almost everyday since we were teenagers and I rarely talked about his eating and weight gain. Read the chapter in the big book ‘working with others’ it gives some good suggestions for talking to others. That is my experience. Hope it helps.