Why does the loneliness always come in waves? Everything will be going good for a while and then, out of nowhere, it hits like a ton of bricks.
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You'll b alright. Go to church groups or watch them online
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There are alot of secular (nonreligious) As groups in WI and online that are very welcoming and nonjudgmental/non clicky that are worth checking out if you don't wanna have god stuff crammed down your throat just to stay sober.
Regardless, get to some meetings and extend yourself.
I get them as well it's wierd. PAWS(Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome) can last up to a year or two where feelings of loneliness, depression, anxiety come and go. I see your from Wiscosnsin, my Grandpa used to have a cottage in Eagle River.
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The thing is loneliness and uselessness feelings justify the next fucked up thing your disease wants you to do.
Make No mistake about it this disease wants you dead but will settle for drunk or high.
The solution is to find someone to help, do service work, get around sober people who talk about how they are not a glum lot.
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I feel that! I think it's a part of being human, that ache to connect with something we can't describe, like being homesick for a place we've never been. Society prizes "happy", being up and ok all the time, but I think that's unrealistic, sadness is the mother of compassion, empathy and the push for community, that togetherness we all crave, but addicts feel it more acutely. But there is a beauty in the ache, desire to be at one with the universe and our fellow humans. You are not alone. They way I move through that feeling is to look around me, at a meeting, a bus stop, supermarket, wherever I am and really look because there is always someone lonelier then me, and I smile at them, make eye contact, maybe even say hello, just to connect, and let them know they are also seen. Idk, probably corny but it it works for me
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Thank you all so much!