Feeling alone right now, Overthinking…

I am proud of myself as Ive come a longgg way remaining sober for almost two yrs now (after abusing alcohol many many yrs)… how have I made it to almost 2 yrs?! Isolation. I cut off all relationships that only led me to drinking. Isolating myself has worked it has, but it is very lonely. I listen to motivational podcasts/youtube videos & it helps, but then I have days like today when I just lay in bed & dont have any energy to take myself out just for a walk. I don’t have friends now & I mostly keep to myself. I only talk to my therapist once a week. I struggle with mental health disorders though I have learned to accept & embrace who I am. But some days I just wish it’ll all go away & wish I could just be “normal.” I ask myself why am I like this? These ups & downs suck. Hoping for a better day tomorrow. Well, I hope you are feeling good today. Take care.

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Wish I could help. Gave up two years sober once from a situation similar to yours. Hope your day goes better tomorrow.

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I found that having a purpose, such as a job or volunteering really helped me not feel isolated

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I know this feeling all too well, it's hard and i resonate with how you dealt with the trials of isolation. I too see a therapist and usually advises to try and focus your feelings into something you enjoy. Almost divert those thoughts towards something that interests you. Even if it's alone, as long as your mind isn't consumed with those thoughts, it somehow becomes easier to feel okay being alone. I wish you well on your journey and hope you find peace in solitude :black_heart:

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I hope you’re having a better day today. I’m no expert but it sounds like you need fresh, healthy hobbies. But I understand, some days you just don’t want to get out of bed. Do you have a pet to keep you company?

I get that feeling. Reach out if you need someone to chat with.

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Honestly I felt the same way a lot in my first stretch of sobriety but then I realized that there is no "normal" everyone has the same ups and downs and feelings. We are not unique. "Normies" have the same feelings, they just don't over do it with negative coping. None of my co workers "have a problem" but they still drink to de-stress or lighten up. It just sucks for us because we don't have that liberty anymore. We have to grow to deal without or find healthier ways to deal. That's why I believe that once we are sober and have been working on ourselves for a while that we end up being stronger than the "normies" because we learn to deal without drugs or alcohol and that is mind blowing in and of itself! I hope you feel better, I truly do! Do you go to meetings or do anything like CrossFit? I honestly met so many amazing, sober (and if not, respect my sobriety) people in CrossFit it's insane. The few close friends I have anymore are either from church, meetings or the gym. You will be ok, no matter what, don't pick up. I'll be sending some prayers!

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Hang in there Mari and keep connecting :heartpulse:

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Thank you all!:heart: I appreciate all the feedback & positive comments. I am okay today! I do always look forward to a brand new day & a new opportunity to choose positivity & live sober. I am new on this app & already so thankful for all of you!

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Listen to my podcast on Spotify, it’s called ( the dude named Ashley) it’s about my journey to being homeless, strung out and to a fully recovered life. It will let you know , we’ve all been there.

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Ok i will! Thank you