Feeling Alone

Hey guys, I’m Jimmy - I’m new to the community. I’ve got 87 days clean, and I’m finally willing to do whatever it takes to stay sober. I went to rehab, agreed to go to a sober house/PHP, go to NA meetings, have a sponsor & have hobbies that I love. I live with some great guys and it’s nice to have people around me that are going through similar struggles, but I still feel this sense of loneliness/emptiness. Like a part of me has died. It’s a shitty feeling. I’m hoping this goes away with time and as I get to know myself more. Any thoughts?

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You’re in a transition. Part of you DID die. Alcohol was a huge part of your identity so yes, when that part dies, there is an unfamiliar space left there that feels foreign to you. I am beyond happy that you have support and new hobbies. Having those things will eventually lead you to a new part of you that will fill that hole alcoholism left.

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I understand that feeling. I’m only 14 days in but already not looking forward to certain situations but I have to tell myself to live in TODAY. You can do this! You’ll figure out what needs to fill that “hole”. Just let it be there for awhile

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Thanks for sharing Jimmy. It’s a whole new thing doing life sober. It felt strange at first for sure. I found that working the steps with my sponsor was the solution. It’s a new way of life and I can’t put in words how grateful I am for it. The promises have come true for me today.

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