Feeling extremely broken. After a recent traumatic event, I experienced

Feeling extremely broken. After a recent traumatic event, I experienced an intense period of depression. Self-care was neglected. It was like nothing I’ve ever felt before. Upon recovering, my hip length hair, which had been left in a bun for weeks, had to be cut off. A part of me is dead. I’d spent years growing it out and pouring all the love I possibly could into it. Now it’s gone. I feel like my feminine energy has been taken from me. The instinct to numb is VERY PRESENT. I know that will do nothing for my future health and hair, and I’m staying the course.
I feel like a broken teacup.

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Honor the grief of the loss of hair. This could be an opportunity to explore other aspects of your femininity. Remind yourself that your a teapot that needs to be filled back up.

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Don’t give up on yourself it can be hard some days but we have to just keep pushing through it will get better believe in yourself and everything that you have experienced one day you will look back at how far you have come you have gone through so much, self love “keep sharing :sparkles::blush:

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I’m sorry, Jen.
That’s got to be awful to deal with.

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I’m sorry. I wish I knew what to say to help

Added you! I know hair is apart of a woman’s identity but just know it doesnt define your beauty.

Wish you well

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Hope you feel better soon

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Grief is awful, and I find that for me words don't really bring too much comfort...

But I am sorry your going through this. Amd it sounds horrible amd painful.

I battle with depression, and traumatic events send me into a spiral of isolation and despair where my self care just goes out the window.

So I pray for you to have comfort in your heart.
As well as forgiveness for the times you weren't so nice to yourself. Because forgiving yourself is self care .
And with that you can find strength In the bad times that you have survived

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I totally understand, I have been there. My hair is like my heart. When I got Covid, it all fell out. I died. I was so lost, I reclused. I couldn’t go out, I felt ugly, I tried everything to get it back. People had to keep telling me I was beautiful. And I’m sure you are right now too. I’m here if you need or want to chat. :pray:

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Thank you so much :pensive:

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Hey Jen, I don’t know if you have read my other posts, but a guy who ask you to send him a friend request is who I’m speaking of. Just a heads up. :pray:

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Hi Jen. I am so sorry. I completely understand the heartache and grief of losing your hair. I am so sorry you are experiencing that. Let yourself feel that. Give yourself grace and be kind to yourself. You got this!

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It unfortunately was my 1st interaction on this app. Went downhill very quickly. Shut it down. Will not engage with that. Wrong platform. Maintaining a safe space here.

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Good luck, Jen!!!:purple_heart:

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I’m so sorry to hear your struggling Jen but know you are more powerful than your depression and trauma. Take the time to work through your trauma and then use it to build yourself up stronger. I battle my past traumas and depression everyday, sometimes are easier than others , but a day sober battling is still better than hundred numbed by alcohol or anything else. If you ever need to talk , standing offer that I’d be here for you to reach out too. Just like your hair will grow back stronger and more beautiful than ever . So will your heart and mind!

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Hi Jen. Look up “Kintsugi” it’s the art of repairing broken pottery and still using that teacup with its new weld. Beauty is in the repaired whole again, what an art form if you can see it that way. Our pain, especially from trauma, becomes a strength when we punch out of it. Keep your chin up.

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You’ve been through a lot, I'm sorry. I can feel how this loss is hitting you. Healing isn’t what’s lost, it’s what’s still inside you, growing and rebuilding.
You’re not a broken teacup, you’re someone who’s been poured into over and over, and still finds a way to hold on. Keep staying the course, you’re stronger than you realize. :heart:

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Great piece of advice.

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Keep your chin up Jen! When I come out of the dark places the light shines bright on me. Praying for you glad you shared :pray:t2::raised_hands:t3::tulip::two_hearts:

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Thank you for the encouragement.

That is beautiful info. Thank you.

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