Who else feels this way?
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I relate so much to this I been feeling lonely allot lately
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I’ve got my family but it isn’t the same. I was looking back at old pictures from when we would be brought to a meeting outside every day and we were so close. That was 6 years ago, most of them are dead now. I stayed off the dope but right now I’m struggling with alcohol.
I found that connection in the fellowship of AA. It took a few months to get plugged in to where I felt comfortable. 19 months later I’m very comfortable with my peeps. A few good sober sister in your life would make a world of difference
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I had a great recovery community when I lived in Chicago, but I was far away from my family. Now I’m close to my family but I’m not plugged in here yet. I loved the program, I stayed completely sober for nearly 4 years. It didn’t take long once I moved. I know I need to get connected out here.
My first sober date was June 23, 2017, I just saw that in your bio, different year though. That’s awesome.
Get to a meeting! Keep showing up at the same meeting over and over and eventually you’ll get that connection back.
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I know the feeling, I had to find the right group at NA to have the same feeling I got to meetings Aa and Na all over town but my home group is like family...
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Meetings make connections. But it ultimately up too you. Go early stay late. Beside, would you rather be sober and lonely?or drunk, insane, and lonely. 
I totally get that
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If I had a vehicle I would be in the meetings like I was for the 4 years I lived in Chicago. I’ve done Service in meetings, Area, and also conventions. I love the program, it just isn’t accessible where I’m at now. I didn’t need a cat living in the city but here I need one.
It’s normal to feel like that , when I left rehab I felt so out of place even my own home around my family , felt like I didn’t belong , it’ll pass eventually
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I have good days and bad. I never feel lonely, I actually enjoy being by myself. I just have no connection to other people in recovery here where I just moved. I still talk to friends in Chicago but it’s not the same. I’m use to having several meetings a day every day to choose from, it’s not that way here. Soon I’ll have a car and I can get to meetings. That’s why I downloaded this app and I get on zoom for virtual meetings.
That "connection" was just "attention". Go to AA/NA and get some attention, and feel connected. Go to meetings and help some other struggling addicts. It's a good feeling.
I understand
I was so glad to get the fark out of rehab and start enjoying life. Lots of responsibilities but so much more enjoyable if willing to do the work.
I took my time. I dedicated an entire year to my recovery. After that I worked on everything else. The connections I made is what kept me there. I grew up in an abusive environment so learning how to let people in and care was not easy, but once I did it was amazing. I’m hoping to find connection in this new place, I need it.
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It's been years since I've been in treatment. Chances are you might be feeling exposed to the world. We weren't exposed to the world so much when we're in treatment because we have the security of the treatment center around us.
The best way to feel that connection is to start getting involved with people that have the same challenge that you do; Sobriety.
Start going to some AA meetings and don't settle for the first one that you go to. Check out many of them and pick a home group. After a while you'll start meeting people. Get some phone numbers going and use them. That's how you build your support group.
And I don't know where you're at and you're sobriety but remember that no matter whatever you feel or how disconnected you feel don't pick up the first drink because it's not bad enough to drink.
I had almost 9 years when I relapsed and I found out the hard way that there was nothing to be gained. It cost me 3 years of oblivion. I've been back for almost 9 years now.
Hang in there kiddo. It gets better. It really does.
Don't let it affect your boundaries. I hope you find a good community!
The rehab connections were a lot of fun! I just remember all of the laughs but a lot of that I attest to coming off the junk and finally feeling healthy.
5 years into recovery the periods of loneliness still spring up occasionally even while being married and having kids. One thing I do is always make sure that I’m taking care of myself and as I get more comfortable being me I am more comfortable being alone.
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