Feeling so defeated.
Day one is better than one day Tara
That's how I felt just about 2 yrs ago after I was cut off at a bar. That bartender had to control my drinking for me. That's when I finally realized I can never drink like a normal person ever again. AA saved my life from there! I don't know your drug of choice, but you can do this too if you really want it!
I’ve been there before, stay positive, stay strong, take it day by day
The truth is nobody comes to recovery feeling like a winner. I know it’s hard but that’s why I appreciate your honesty and openness even more so!
You have a lot of time to enjoy the promises of a life happy joyous and free. And lots of love to give and receive…someday you’ll thank yourself for being courageous enough to get help.
Why?
Let me guess. You were sober for a while and then you picked up a drink?
I wouldn't feel defeated. Look at it as a lesson learned. Next time you need to learn to play the scene forward. What happens if you pick up a drink? You might feel some relief for a very short period of time but sooner or later you will be right back where you are right now carrying around a lot more guilt realizing that you accomplished absolutely nothing.
In Alcoholics Anonymous this is referred to as the Insidious cycle of insanity.
I want you to read something that comes from the chapter of the big book entitled the doctor's opinion.
Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time differentiate the true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only normal one. They are
restless, irritable and discontented
unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see others taking with impunity. After they have succumbed to the desire again, as so many do, and the
phenomenon of craving
develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an
entire psychic change
there is very little hope of his or her recovery.”
Meetings, sponsor, 12 steps=
Psychic change
Thank you everyone. I worked all day and that helped 
Baby steps my friend. What's one thing you can conquer today?
This feeling dwindles with time. I understand it can be overwhelming now.
Better day one than not at all. Keep your head up. It’s not always one day at a time. Sometimes it’s hours, minutes or seconds. You are still here.
We all have to start somewhere and all we can do is keep moving forward! You aren’t alone!
Remember that falling down is not a sign of weakness, but rather an opportunity to learn and grow. Each time we fall, we can use it as a chance to reflect, reevaluate, and come back even stronger. So don't be afraid. And if you do fall, just remember that you have the strength and determination to get back up again, no matter what. Keep going and never give up!