How do i begin working the steps without finding a sponsor to work them with . Ive been actively looking for one
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Hi Christina If not already start hitting meetings. You'll get most of your support and help there. You may need to go to a few different groups before you find your "home" group. Also you can download the Big Book app it has tons of info. Support, 12 steps & traditions etc. You'll find a sponsor eventually. Sometimes it's better to not have one than the wrong one if you're new and starting your journey. Hope this helps 
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I agree with Dion, find some groups or meetings near your home, get comfortable in the meetings listen for someone who you can relate to and also see how much time they have under their belt. Doing the steps took me almost a year to get through a lot of them. Except for took a long time. When you're doing the steps really good deep searching in your soul because when the truth comes out you look at it you understand it then you feel like you accomplish something and then go to your next step but a sponsor make sure you feel comfortable be honest listen to what they tell you to do because they have a long time under their belt it all work out for you. I had 15 years of sobriety and I'm 65 so I started at 50. Sobriety is the best way to live being sober I understand I hear I listen and you're going to learn a lot about yourself doing the steps. All right good luck hope this helps Dion I like your input too have a good day guys God bless
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100% agree! There is the right person out there to be your sponsor! Not always is it the first person you find that could be your sponsor is the best sponsor for you!
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Find a woman who has what you want, and just ask her. I talked myself out of asking for a sponsor for the first 3 months of my recovery, and it was torture. A sponsor isn't a lifetime commitment either, but I couldn't do the steps alone. I needed a man who had been through the steps, and one who had taken other men through the steps. That's where the freedom was for me, and is why I have been asked to sponsor 8 different men all at different phases of their sobriety. I do my best to pay it forward, as was done freely for me. You have to be the one to ask her to be your sponsor though. My advice would be, do not delay and get a sponsor as quickly as you can! Best of luck to you!
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You really don't Work the Steps until you do it with the guidance and support of a Sponsor. But....living the steps, more so the first 3...well that's something we can all do!!
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Hey there's an app for that! It's called 12 steps: addiction recovery available in Google Play store and if you have an apple I believe it may be in the app store. 
It's been helping me a lot especially with self inventory.
You got some great suggestions. Congratulations on your sobriety btw​:tada: Other than what has been said, there are step specific meetings, zoom step meetings, podcasts and YouTube vids about the steps. A huge part of the steps is learning to ask for help. This shows a great deal of humility, which you will need to continue working the steps. It’s also a way of turning your will and life over to a higher power. For me this power greater than myself is my sponsor, AA meetings, the steps, my therapist etc. Basically we don’t do this on our own, which is a key principle in the program. I know first hand how hard it is to ask for help, to get a sponsor, to trust another person…I almost died because I couldn’t/wouldn’t. That’s our pride and ego trying to kill us. Hope this makes some sense. My intentions are to help. Sometimes I get carried away 
Go to an in-person AA/NA meeting. Raise your hand when they ask the group if there are any newcomers. They’ll give you a list of women in attendance along with their phone numbers. After the meeting, pick up the phone and start making calls. If you’re comfortable with a Christian-based recovery program, look into Celebrate Recovery. You can enroll in a women’s step study program which is more structured.
You should definitely consider connecting with someone
AI sponsor?!
If you're looking for a sponsor go to mostly Women's the meetings
Is some women will even do a temporarily Until you find somebody that you connect with better.But you need to get into those steps.In order to stay clean the quicker , the better
I have sponsored men & women over the phone successfully multiple times.
I’ll friend request you now if you want to talk
Yes, for me it helps just to get in the groove in moving in to connect with an actual person.
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They work when we work them! 100%. I looked back at my most recent slip up and not working the steps consistently, not staying spiritually grounded consistently, not having a sponsor and not staying plugged were the major contributing factors. Correcting that.
All this to say, keep it up! You're doing great.
My sponsor works over the phone, and it's actually working out great. After two in person sponsors did not...
Meetings. I highly suggest not doing it alone.
Christina I'll walk you through them if no one else would. They're very easy. Take them at face value.