I've been really good for a while now. I'm really proud of being 13 months sober. But it's the holidays , I'm struggling with my patience for others while noticing my socializing meter is maxed out constantly.
It's my 2nd holiday season sober and it feels like I'm a hair trigger.
Just writing this out is helpful but I'm struggling
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Holidays can be certainly bring out the stress. The feeling of frustration and struggle is super normal. Just know you’re in control and enjoy the fact that you’re kicking so much áss. Be proud always💪🏻
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Congrats on your 13 months!
It’s okay to take things moment-by-moment.
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I just spent my last counseling session talking about exactly this. We laid out some of the potential stresses and/or triggers and prepared a plan for them. Right now is a time alcohol is waiting to take back over, be strong
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The Bermuda Triangle - Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years. Takes more people out than any other time of the year. Stay on your guard and Don't Pick Up, No Matter What!
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Glad your post helped you. I’m sure a lot of us feel the same way. Keep reaching out. Sounds like you have good tools and are staying strong
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Congratulations 13 months!
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This is my first holidays sober I just try to stay busy doing stuff around the house
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Great on your 13 months, but yes the holidays do suck. I’m 31 days after a severe relapse, which resulted in me being disinvited from my family’s annual Christmas party and a breakup from my girlfriend of four years. So lovely, isolated during the holidays by those I care about the most, but I’m determined not to let the holidays blow my sobriety and don’t you let it either. It’s just temporary.
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Are there any alkathons near you? I'm volunteering at one near me and using it as an excuse to get the freak away from family to be around a bunch of alcoholics.
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I have been going through the same thing and I’m around the same amount of time sober as you. I used to be very social and accepting but feel like I have little patience for others and my social meter is maxed out. Feel free to message me. I’m going home to a full house for the holidays and it is stressing me out. If you need an ear, don’t hesitate to reach out; sounds like we are in similar spots. Sending love 
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I cracked last week and regret it. Hopefully you’re still hanging in there.
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I don’t know what works for others but I take a lot of naps. And phone calls to interrupt the continuous nature of visiting family. Run errands or go to a carwash just to remind myself this too shall pass. Thanks for sharing it might prepare me for something too.
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Just get through it keep stacking days
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I’m experiencing the same thing!! This is my first holiday season sober, I knew it was going to be tough but it’s the emotional feelings that are hardcore overwhelming! Stay strong, you got this 
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14 months, bit of the same, and while I’m not having an urge to drink, I am having an urge to get away from social situations and getting more aggressive and impatient. Just keep on keeping on, and set boundaries before you tell people aggressively to kick rocks.
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You and me both sista.
This will be my first sober holidays. Im okay tho i have a 5 point harness that ill be using . Seriously tho i feel like this will be one of the more glorious holidays one that i can remember forever. 
❤🩹
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