For my single people. Have you found it hard to

taylor130608 · January 23, 2022, 5:31pm

For my single people. Have you found it hard to meet people in such a alcohol positive society? I feel like everyone I meet and talk to, their only option for a date or outing is drinking.

jill130722 · January 23, 2022, 5:44pm

Preach! I’ve found it extremely hard and find myself shutting people out completely as soon as they mention “meeting up for drinks”.

kbradford120128 · January 23, 2022, 5:53pm

Well, there is a dating side to this site. Suggest tho getting your foundation built solid before adding a relationship to the recovery. Yet, you’d be surprised how many folk out there are doing the sober dating now. Think the pandemic has woken up a lot of people to problems within. Stay sober and things will eventually work out.

taylor130608 · January 23, 2022, 6:00pm

I’ve checked out the dating on this app, I had like 3 people within 100 miles of me😅.

taylor130608 · January 23, 2022, 6:02pm

It’s rough, or I’ll respond like oh I don’t drink, then I get ghosted haha

aggelo130465 · January 23, 2022, 6:19pm

Yea, same here. I chose to work as a dishwasher, everyone knows I can’t afford to go out and drink

taylor130608 · January 23, 2022, 7:09pm

I’m a chef, it’s a hard industry to be in and staying sober. Keep strong my friend

j130610 · January 24, 2022, 4:06am

Totally relate. Hoping to figure this out one day.

jenn122709 · January 24, 2022, 5:36am

Dating sober is hard. In over three years I have had few positive dating experiences. Most people drink, which wouldn’t be a problem for me if their weekends didn’t revolve around drinking. I have come to the point where I am no longer actively looking, if I meet someone who is rad and doesn’t drink or drinks sparingly then sweet, if not I will keep being single. I have created a life where I am happy on my own, and I think that is the ultimate goal. As it relates to dates, I usually request to meet at a coffee shop during the day, eliminates the bar scene.

dylan130735 · January 24, 2022, 6:56am

Dating sober has been absolutely discouraging, I’ve had the same problem with the men I’ve gone out with, drinking seems to be the only recreational thing to do, keep your chin up and take it one day at a time

brie102060 · January 24, 2022, 1:21pm

When I was single I was very open that I don’t drink. A lot of my dates were at cafes.

gyrell112820 · January 24, 2022, 2:35pm

same

laura122853 · January 24, 2022, 2:55pm

Maybe try doing some hiking or outdoorsy meet ups? You'll meet people during a sober activity. Doesn't guarantee they are sober but at least you know they're capable of having fun without alcohol and actively doing it

craig84588 · January 25, 2022, 12:55am

When we are drinking, we meet people who drink. Just like when we go skiing we meet other ppl who ski.

It seems like everyone drinks but it isn’t true. I’m a chef too. And where I work there are 4 of us in recovery. At my last hotel job there were 6 of us.

Go live life. Do the stuff that you love. You’ll meet people who share that love, and something will build from there.

Dating sites are weird. The common interest is dating? At least on this site the common interest is sobriety. That’s a great common interest.

lisa54983 · January 25, 2022, 4:58am

Right on! I’m right there with you. I have found happiness in sobriety and love being me. Growth and positivity within ourselves, maybe it will attract someone right when we’re not looking?! Either way, love my sober life!!!

arianna130401 · January 25, 2022, 5:20am

Yep! So much of the dating world relies on drinking. Nervous before a date? Drink. Meet them for drinks. Have a drink on the date. Ugh. I don’t want that to be my life anymore.