How do you cope? Friends, exes, family who are actively using and spiralling and need help but are stuck in the endless cycle of substance use. Maybe they aren’t really ready yet for it to stop or maybe they don’t have enough skills yet to get clean. How do you cope with not being able to help? I find I can’t sleep at night and constantly anxious because I’m scared I’m gonna get a call that friend is dead. They need help but wont let me. I want to stay in their corner by being compassionate but still trying to give tough love so they actually hear me. It’s such a tight rope balancing act. How do you cope with the anxiety and try and focus on yourself when a loved one is drowning. 
I just pray for them. I say a prayer for those in and out of ❤️🩹 recovery.
It’s hard because you won’t to see them do well. The best things to do are to pray and ask for your higher power to release the heavy energy that you hold for them. I am dealing with this too, being in recovery while practicing forgiveness and hanging up my cape as the hero. One of the most difficult things I have ever done !!