Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn't. We may have spent years negotiating with reality concerning particular people from our and our present we may have spent years trying to get someone to love us in a certain way, when that person cannot or will not.
It's time to let go. It is time to let him or her go. That doesn't mean we can't love that person anymore. It means that we feel the immense relief that comes when we stop denying reality and begin accepting. We release that person to be who he or she actually is. We deal with our feelings and walk away from the destructive system.