I told one of my best friends that I decided to stop drinking. She recently left her husband because he's an alcoholic and I've been dealing with a sister who is also an alcoholic and realized I too had a bit of a problem. I told her I felt like a hypocrite since I kept telling my sister to stop drinking but knew of my own issues. It's been 35 days sober for me now and I feel great, but it hasn't been easy. She seemed upset when I told her and she lashed out at me, which sort of hurt. I figured she'd be happy for me. She still drinks and did when her husband was trying to get sober so I assume if we hang out she will drink around me and I told her that's totally fine with me, but we haven't hung out yet and in the past drinking was part of how we spent time together. I'm worried about what she thinks of me and if things will be different. Anyone else experience this with close friends?
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We all have to some extent and the bottom line is you will lose some “friends”. Ultimately it will depend on how bad you want sobriety
If I may....do tour thing and let things play out. If she pushes away it may be as much for you as it is for her.
Be very careful as it seems there is drama all around and we sometimes allow out actions to be reaction to surrounding circumstance. Don't let feeling like you need to DO anything to keep this one friendship.
Check out Al-anon meetings