Fucked up and drank at a party last night. I've got a newish sponsor. Should I tell him now or wait until I have a couple of days sober? I'm just running around my mind considering all the possibilities like will he think I'm not serious about getting sober and give up on me and then I won't have a support system or anyone to talk to. What should I do?
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You should tell him now. You only as sick as the secrets you keep. And secrets are the key to the relaspe door. But dont beat yourself up because we do recover
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Do whatever it takes to stay sober. If he drops you then find someone else. Making a network takes time. I used to relapse a lot and I always worried about what other people thought. I realize now that it’s my recovery and my life. So it doesn’t matter what they think.
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Thanks so much! I just texted my sponsor!
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Ya I was scared but ur right honesty is key I just texted my sponsor
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Work the steps with your sponsor.
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Good for you, I get really nervous about that also
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Hey dude, I had a great conversation with my sponsor he understood that I drank and why I drank. I know of a great support system of friends too I just need to hit them up
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This program is all about honesty. Own your mistakes, learn from them, don’t dwell on them. Suck it up, drive on.
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Yes we do. Well said!
Definitely tell him. That's the disease telling u to not reach out
Take it from someone who has relapsed a bunch this year, tell him now, and don’t beat yourself up. We are human, if you are struggling with what you say you are then it shows me your heart is in the right place as far as your sobriety is concerned. I’ve found for myself it was a surrender issue, I was still holding on to something that I was putting above my sobriety. Take a look at your life and priorities, is Recovery truly number one in your life? You got this amigo, I believe in you!
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Tell him. One thing we care about the most is honesty. It could stop a slip from turning to a full blown relapse. Tell on yourself. It’s humbling but enriching.
Tell him now. The guilt alone will have you keep another secret and drink again (because he doesn’t know) It’s the secrets that really tear at me with the sneaky behavior. One more lie won’t hurt but yea it does. It always do. Tell him. It’s not as bad as you think in your mind. You’ll feel better afterwards. You deserve that.
I called my sponsor into the third beer. A head full of AA and just three beers are a terrible mix
Tell on yourself right away. It will just eat at you until you do if you are anything like me.
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