My daughter is six months pregnant and she got drunk last night and the police took her to the ER I’m posting this because I’m newly sober and I’m full of guilt and shame for not having the strength to quit my addiction sooner and now she’s the same she just wants her man to love her and the baby. I’m blaming myself for her mental health issues. I’m scared to death she’s going to die and hurt her baby and then I’ll lose her forever. Please someone tell me what to do. I’m just three days sober and this isn’t about me but I need to be strong for her
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Man that's tough. I dont have the experience or qualify to give counsel here, but I hear you and wish you and your daughter well. Being sober will definately help you deal with the situation, rather than drinking it under the rug. Get through today. Sleep well tonight and do it again tomorrow. 
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Well there's a couple of good things to comment on here you're sober is one of them and if you're daughter is still in the hospital she's safe all you can do is lead by example do the program of aa and hopefully the medical professionals at the hospital will put you're daughter into a sober place and hopefully she will start working on her sobriety if both of you stay sober you're going to live a life beyond your wildest dreams by the way I've sober almost 10 years
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Hello! I’m pregnant too so just speaking from my experience I was messed up really bad while my husband was in prison and when he came home I ended up helping him relapse he was so upset he made me go to rehab or I was going to lose him! Well when I got there I found out I was pregnant, I was so scared finding out but glad I went to rehab at the time because I wasn’t to far along and I now work a program and continue counseling, maybe she should do the same to have a better chance at keeping her baby because I do know the hospital will probably report things like that and if she shows she’s trying to do good then she will have better luck at keeping the baby. But as for you keep doing what your doing maybe stay away from each other right now. Me and my father used together and we know we’re not good for each other when we’re clean. We love each other from a distance.
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Don't drink and go to meetings Kathy. Always remember the slogan "Let it begin with me". You are Kathy and your daughter sees that. This is a insidious dis-ease so just keep coming back! After a period of time I suggest you go to Alanon as well!. Keep coming back Kathy!
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Focus on your sobriety. As hard as it is you are of no use to your family if you are using. I am struggling with my daughter ad well. Today she chooses to drink so all I can do is take care of me and pray for her. You are in my prayers.
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Kathy I’m sorry to hear that we have you and your family in our prayers.
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Thank you so much for sharing your experience, your strength and your hope
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The thing about guilt is that it sometimes doesn't know how to tell time. Whether you are newly sober or deeper in, your mind will somehow try to convince you you deserve a break or don't deserve to be sober for whatever reason. "I feel like s#%t anyway so"... no. You deserve to continue on, to be a 4th day stronger. You can do this. For yourself and for your kid. Don't look back. Just keep walking. Keep breathing. Be nice to yourself. Forgive yourself and know you are heading in the right direction.
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Wow it’s been a long day but I’m still sober. Went to the pool with my other daughter (she is pregnant also) and my little granddaughter. So today is almost over and my other daughter is in the psyche ward so I’m calling it a day. Thanks Morgan I appreciate
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It’s a feeling of complete surrender to it no matter what
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Amen I’m exhausted
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It’s hard to get it out but I’m trying
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Oooh it’s so scary she’ll be out tomorrow from the psyche ward
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Little by little, got this
I understand more than I wish I did! 🫂 hugs and more hugs
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