Good afternoon everyone

Recovery
#1

It’s been a long time since I posted about a struggle but, I need to hear from you now. Yesterday was my birthday and again, no visit from my daughter, I know last week I was very ill with a very contagious virus but feel so much better. I feel she used this as an excuse to not come by again. Her husband’s nephews birthday was yesterday too, I know they never miss a function on his side of the family. I feel so emotionally crushed and I know I can’t keep doing this to myself. This has been the most difficult relationship to fix. I had major surgery a little over a month ago and never got a visit. I understand she works a lot but am I being stupid. I mean only daughter and I feel like I walk on eggshells.

Saturday she called me and we talked for awhile and I was on cloud 9 but not 45 minutes later she texted and asked if she could use my credit card for a new vacuum. That was like a knife to my heart. Was that the reason she called? I feel like it’s only when she needs something the calls or text are many. I immediately went into a isolation mode and didn’t even want to talk to anyone the rest of the day. I have to pick my words carefully but, right now I just want to blast at her. My husband and I are up there in age and we feel like outsiders. If he knew this he would be livid so I am struggling with this alone. I am at a loss and really struggling with this. Thank you for letting me vent.

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#2

Meadow... That just sucks, plain and simple. I would feel the same.

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#3

Ok so not being childish. I have never been so out of tune with my program. But I will not give up ever for anyone.

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#4

You can't. When we do, we lose everything.

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#5

Keep communication open. I know we want more from our kids. Go one day at a time :heart:

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#6

Dang, I know this is tough. I hope in time she seeks you for the personal relationship of mother and daughter. It stinks when it seems like folks we love are only interested in what we can give them. I hope you feel better soon; fortunately or unfortunately we can only work to control how we ourselves think and feel. You're not alone my friend, thanks for sharing this with us. You're family is in my heart.

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#7

I am walking in your shoes as we speak. You are not alone. So painful when the ones you love disown you. Unfortunately I have to accept what I can’t change but I will never give up trying to communicate. Remember: you are not alone in your situation.

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