Was together for just over 1.5 years with my ex. I left at least 10 times due to her drinking. It wasnt a terrible issue fpr her, but for me it certainly was. Having little to no sleep due to making sure she got home okay. Having to try and wake up a hungover woman every day to make sure they went to work. Loosing quality time with them because their free time with friends always involved drinking.. In the end I left as it was killing me to enable and killing me more watching her do it..Maybe im weak in that I couldnt motivate her. Or maybe it just always fell on deaf ears... Know your boundries. And know when to walk away... still staying sober... one day at a time. 92 days
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Motivating someone else becomes extremely taxing when they aren't participating. Your sobriety is just that. There are past relationships that I would love to entertain without alcohol but I can only control my side of the street.
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This post and Josh's response should have more attention.
Matt, you know yourself that we can't talk someone into sobriety. Congrats for hanging in there for yourself at 92 days. Don't ever go back to what broke you.
Josh, you are exactly right. I feel that 100% completely. It's rough out there and only the addicts/now sober people understand all of this.
Love you guys, and dm if ever needed.
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Thanks man. It means a lot to hear such positive responses. Its been a long time
Unfortunately sobriety only happens when the person themselves want it. Doing it because others around them tell them they have to be sober is just asking for failure. Every day I fight to stay sober for myself. Keep up the great work 92 days is quite the accomplishment.
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Matt, been there done that. No thank you.
I highly, highly suggest ALANON. It deals with exactly what you went through. Get to an ALANON meeting and listen.
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Congratulations on 92 days, that's awesome. I was told early in sobriety a few things that helped me through bad times, and the good.
I can only control what is in my shoes
Do sobriety one day at a time.
If i don't prioritize my own sobriety I will loose everything and die.
Be the best example of recovery so someone else will want what you have.
Those have worked so far, and I have a few 24 hours.
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Outstanding
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Gracias!
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