I hang with my old drinking friends - but they know I don’t do that puts pressure on me NOT to drink. Being around drunk people? Is obnoxious (makes me embarrassed for when I led the pack). But if you can’t do that? Go to yoga - I started kickboxing recently - keeps me from sitting alone on the couch (my number one trigger).
And btw, I have 3 days. I’m on and off too - determined this time to make it. I just need a good night sleep. Hopefully tonight..
Once i realized there would never be a day when regular off switches would allow me to drink like others who do not share this malady i was able to surrender to the idea of never getting drunk again. From there i was able to see that Fun is as Fun does: activities are enjoyable or not on their own merit, not on whether i need to close one eye to prevent double vision so i can see them. Ten years along, i cannot look back and find an experience in that whole time, not even one, i would have enjoyed more drunk. After 2-3 years i invented a useful science process that needed straight grain alcohol as a necessary solvent. I did a hard analysis of my sobriety and concluded that it was not the absence of liquor that keeps me sober but instead the stark truth that if i take a drink today, i do not know where i will next wake up or what will have occurred. My only 100% sure guarantee i meet my HP sober is not taking Drink One. And if i am going to throw all progress up and commit suicide by bottle, it sure is not going to be straight grain alcohol i use to start the process. So i found that a bottle of Everclear kept as a solvent in my closet presented no temptation. From that, the next time folk started offering me drinks anywhere, i found it easy to see a beer or shot and think, Windex. I am able to be around a group of people as they start to drink with no compulsion to join them, and they reinforce my decision as their voices get loud, jokes get stupid, bodies get sloppy, and behavior gets obnoxious, by which time, 1-2 hrs tops, i can make my polite exit and go do something more interesting, useful, or peaceful.
BUT
If i look at my solvent tomorrow and wonder why i quit, or what it would taste like, or how long i could nurse it in a drink, it's going straight in the toilet and my self-permissiveness is immediately and permanently done. This disease is not a game.
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Being sober- drinkers don’t mix. Stay a way from friends that drink for a year.go to aa meetings or any meetings for not drinking.churches have programs.90 meetings in 90 days.it takes work and action.in person meetings will help a lot.remember people die from this.
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Hows it going Dianne? You getting a plan?
I started to go out again couple months again I didn’t get the urge or was triggered to have a drink just gotta go with a great mind set
As long as I have a reason to be around people drinking such a celebrating or dining with friends, concert, etc. It hasn't been an issue.