Has anyone dealt with not feeling the same about their

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#1

Has anyone dealt with not feeling the same about their kids after a really long time of not seeing them?

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#2

Yes I only see one of my three daughters and I am not sure why

#3

Same here, I only see one of my two sons. But I’m struggling to make a connection

#4

I don’t know if I did something wrong with them when I was drunk but I don’t remember doing anything wrong to them

#5

Again same here. I think it’s just been a really long time and there’s no recovering from it.

#6

And why am I the bad guy , when I didn’t leave them. They were taking by my ex. It’s not my fault how I feel now.

#7

Well you just met a new friend here who can really really relate

#8

I am about to give up

#9

The two children of mine that won’t see me won’t even give me their address or phone numbers

#10

I feel it, exactly

#11

So you can sometimes find people on Facebook or something like that and I found my middle daughter who has five of my grandchildren that I have never met and don’t know me and sent her a card for something I can’t remember but it was in vain no response

#12

I would like to make amends but how?

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#13

That’s what I did with my oldest son, I just stayed persistent in contacting him through social media. But with my younger son, my ex wife has such a Grudge with me That she make sure I’m blocked from everything

#14

You can start to make amends by staying sober and getting your life together. I have excepted the fact that I am on my own in this life. Sometimes it’s not worth it to have people around you anyways. No one does anything for you, they all have an ulterior motive these days. Just do what you need to do for you and things will eventually fall in place. But then again they might not and you have to except that

#15

My life has been pretty together until I got COVID and I am now on Disability I am a Registered Cardiovascular Invasive Specialist also spent 8 years in the Army and successfully went from a private to an officer anything that might have happened happened back then I just want to give up

#16

I understand completely, I push forward every day but I’m still controlled by a lot around me and at the end of every day I’m still not getting what I want. I’ve got what I need, but I don’t need much. It’s about what I want now, and you should get what you want.

#17

Have you made amends with your x-wife or at least tried to?

#18

Okay I will keep trying Thanks

#19

I honestly don’t know how to, I’m not exactly sure how I can get her to speak with me about it

#20

Making amends is about clearing up the wreckage caused by your addiction. Besides long and thorough work with your sponsors, I would recommend writing letters. Old fashioned letters. Once the person you’re making an amends to has the letter, it’s out of your control and you’re part is done.

As for how to locate people, maybe you can find a friend or family member of your ex who would deliver it.

Making amends to my ex-wife was terrifying. We were in court fighting and unable to agree on much. My amends was a chance to have open, honest dialogue. We laughed and cried. And it began a sort of joint vision for raising our daughters. It’s still hard but it helped me tremendously.

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