38 days sober without going out for party. Have a girls night out soon. I’ve been thinking in going but, How do you manage going out without drinks? Should I wait more?
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If it feels risky, follow your gut. I hear myself saying "I don't drink" and know it's a thing now(by His Grace). If you do go, try to have an exit strategy. Wtg on 38!
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If it were me, i wouldn't go yet, at 38 days. I walked around with a friend last night in a popular area that I have hung out in many times, and even at 15 months sober, it was..... weird.
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Page 101, 102 of the Big Book.
It says that yes in fact we can go to places where alcohol is being served BUT we need to be sure of our intentions (paraphrased).
It specifically says, "But if you are shaky, you had better work with another alcoholic instead"
My suggestion; if you're asking here I would say you are "shaky". Id recommend finding something to do in the program.
If you do go take your own car. Go late. Leave early. Set a time for yourself and stick to it.
Honestly though staying clear of situations like that entirely worked best for me.
I started a small business that lends to me having to be in bars often. I feel like my intentions are correct but I always know that the potential for me to slip as an alcoholic and addict is very high.
I put my sobriety before all things. If I'm feeling uneasy or off I find ways to reschedule interactions in places where drugs and alcohol are not present.
I've got 2 years of sobriety tomorrow and even still bar scenes can make me uneasy. I always have an exit strategy. Others opinion of my early departure is not something I concern myself with.
If they are truly your friends that understand that your sobriety is the most important thing in your life. I've moved on from many friendships, but have gained many more by exercising the tools I've learned on the program and in treatment.
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I always have a sober friend who know I’m going to be there and be in constant contact with them. Text then through the night. Be ready to call them at any moment.
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Thanks! This is really helpful. I appreciate it
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This is great. Thanks for sharing . 
Yeah. No problem. Its a matter of having a solution and doing what you tell yourself will help get you through it
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I would make sure someone in your group knows you are sober and trying to stay that way. If they are really your “girls” they will support you and not pressure you to drink. If you are worried about that not being possible, I would seriously consider how bad do I need to go. The only person that will suffer from the relapse is you, that mental prison you put yourself in will be a party of one. I also like the suggestion to have someone you can call for support and maybe even have them send you a text and check in. It’s a tough situation for any of us, but we miss the lifestyle so we have to manage.
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Me personally you’re to early in your sobriety to go out with friends that drink…. I would wait
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Hi Cecilia~ Congrats on your achievement so far! From my perspective, just be straightforward with your friends… They will be supportive of your decision not to drink alcohol. As for anyone else, don’t worry about them. You are doing this for yourself and no one else. A tip to “blend in” at a bar - Order your soda/juice/whatever in a short glass… everyone will assume you’re drinking & leave you alone! Good luck.
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They are really nice friends. I’m worried more about me being shaky 
I will talk to them and i need to think of a side person to call and be there for me.
This would be my first time in this situation by myself
I have to find the strength. Otherwise I think I’m not going out for now.
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James up above said it best. Have a plan when you go out. Put your sobriety first.
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Take sober friends.. make sure u have an exit plan if things get tough. Tell your accountability buddies your going. Sometimes it’s best to take a rain check on things .. it’s not forever but it’s best for you right now.. plan lunch or something without alcohol later on with them.
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If u can buy some non-alcohol beverages from BevMos make your own drink
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I agree that what I do
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Sounds like a nice plan 
I’ll do that. We are going to the movies this Thursday. I’ll talk with them
Right!!! I’ll check on that. Thank you so much for your tip
Virgin Shirley temple's??? I drink na beer if I really just want the taste. A cold water is pretty irreplaceable this time of year too! Or a root beer float. Y'll can have the alcohol, bring on the ice-cream!!! ...???
If you go and start to feel weird or tested, abandon ship, go to a diner and eat blueberry pancakes. You will deserve them.
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