Having 2nd (and 3rd and 4th) thoughts.
I'm 6-and-a-half months sober, and I attend AA meetings regularly, but have been trying to rationalize if I really need it or not. Talked to my sponsor and he says, "it's your recovery". That's not too helpful 
Has anyone been through this thought process??
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Maybe AA isnât for you. There are other programs you could explore. But your sponsor is correct, it is your recovery. You get out of it what you put in. It took me a good 8 months until I really got it. I was resisting the program and not being completely honest. When I got real with myself it happened. Good luck man. Hope you find the peace you are looking for.
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Yes. I am going through the same type of thing. I enjoyed the first few meetings but then it was like the same thing over and over. I still haven't had a drink but I haven't been going to meetings. I did however come really close to having a drink and didn't because of my Keychains that said 30 and 60 days. After that I went to a meeting to get my 90 day Keychain even though it had been 124 days. Just the reminder of how far I've come and how hard it was to make it to 60 really worked for me. I didn't want to back up or start over because ultimately I don't want to be drunk everyday anymore. 1 drink always leads to more in my case. I hope you get whatever it is that you need to keep going. It's got to be worth it.
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I feel the same way right now. I wouldnât even consider myself âsoberâ yet because I was never a weekday drinker and am making the decision to try abstinence after yet another rough night out. I struggle because I donât have the same problems as what most people define as an alcoholic, but I clearly have a problem with alcohol even if itâs not the same as others. And if I am being really honest with myself, I have never made anything better with drinking. But itâs scary. Itâs kind of depressing and unsettlingly to think about never drinking again. However, when I get these thoughts I just think back on what alcohol has added to my life- nothing positive. I am sticking to the one day (or weekend) at a time motto.
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I would venture that everyone of us has. My first 1.5 years sober, I stopped going to meetings after the 3 months marker, stopped the step work and stopped talking to people in my sober network. And then I got comfortable and thought, âforget it, I got thisâ. One drink became two, and two became three, and three became a bottle. I did this routine, again, for almost a year before ending in detox and rehab. Complacency is one of our biggest sober challenges. Need to keep doing the work or youâll end back out there. And maybe this time youâll be good, but that story just doesnât hold water for the vast majority of us. God is great and so are you! Good luck!
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Iâm actually struggling with the same thoughts right now.
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I got sober alone because I really didnât want to do AA. I was sober six months without ever going once, but I was miserable. I now go to AA just for the fellowship. If I didnât feel it there Iâd find something else. I have a great small group and we really care, thatâs been priceless. I think the group is needed to heal, at least for me. I got myself sober, AA helps me keep it.
If the groups not helping you, try another.
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Have you gone through the steps yet? I would do the 12 steps in order out of the big book 
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Hi Jason. Can you easily put the drink down on your own? Or when you do drink can you hand a glass or a beer ot two and stop with no issues?
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I haven't relapsed since my original hospital stay back in November. I think that if I did have a drink, I would very quickly spiral back out of control.
I haven't started AA. I don't know that I will. I am keeping my mind open to it. I guess I'm waiting for that moment where wanting to drink creeps in my head. I haven't drank in 6 weeks and I have no desire. I do listen to pod casts and read books. I feel it keeps me in check and keeps me in the reality that drinking isn't for me
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All the time or many times. And I get you. You may look around and see your situation and itâs great or functioning. And you say! Well I made it this far and not to bad. The thing is that in all reality without it could be much better. And when your off the wagon. Yes itâs good but you gambling every day and just being careful that it donât get bad. At least thatâs how I looked at and I was right. Off the wagon my life was satisfactory but I wasnât happy and was getting comfortable. Thatâs not good
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Has any one any where in the USA .came in to a meeting and Said how great it was after a relapse.itâs not worth it. Keep going.I was 26 years old when I came in .now 35 years sober.aa . You can do it.!!!
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Stay in for a year.we will give you back all your pain and suffering.free.you Can do these .
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Your disease will get you when youâre at your lowest stay close to the program work the steps until I work the steps not much changed
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