I’m doing dry January but I realized a while ago that I have no sober friends. I’ve been on and off w/ abstinence. I’ve been recommended AA but I’ve gone a few times and I really don’t love it. Tried bumble bff and it’s mostly girls that want to get brunch. Does anyone have other suggestions?
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I didn’t like it at first but now they are my best friends that I have they know what you are going through give it more time
NA is a younger crowd less stringent
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You’re not alone. Sorry, I’m in the same boat lol
AA groups have their own personality. I tried 3 Different places before I found somewhere I liked, ironically a bunch of new Jerseyites in Florida. Connection and feeling like you can open up is what its about
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I'm having the same problem too. Moved from Philly a year ago and haven't looked back. Unfortunately I don't know anyone. I hope to make some friends through meetings eventually
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I would say give it more time as well. If you have to be your own friend for a while
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I had to try a bunch of different meetings until I found ones I really connected with, then I took anyone’s number so I could reach out and get suggestions from
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I have news for you. Nobody likes AA when they first jump in. That is normal. But it is a program that works if you work it. The people that take the action as prescribed in the 12 steps stay sober and the ones that think they know better usually don't stay sober.
My advice is that you keep going to meetings and try different meetings. Find a Home Group and don't quit looking for friends. And don't worry about if you don't have anything in common with them or their outside of your age range. Remember you're there to figure out you and how to live life without picking up a drink.
If you do this you might just find out that these people that you're hanging out with are actually pretty good friends. The longer we stay sober the more we change.
There's a great app in the Google Play store called "Meeting Guide." It works really great no matter what part of the country you live in.
And whoever you hang out with just make sure that they have been sober for a long time and seem to be working a good program. You can usually tell by their comments and how they act at the meetings. Stay away from new people and stay away from the losers.
Are you just looking for people to hang out with during your challenge or are you planning on a sober life? I’m confused.
Hey! The Phoenix is a national sober active community, and we host daily events (in-person, live-streaming, and on-demand)! Highly, highly recommend! And every event is FREE with 48 hours of sobriety! I see you’re in NJ, and I know we have a chapter there. And I’m the Program Manager for the Houston chapter, so if you’re ever down here, look us up! www.thephoenix.org
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Take one day at a time. Keep patience .
Feel free to communicate.
Your on a good sobriety app. Good luck with January. Maybe you will enjoy it so much you will continue.
I need sober friends! 
Don't we all yesss
There’s other support groups like The Luckiest Club, SMART, and of course Loosid! Welcome to the app!
If you have insurance or Medicade try finding an iop rehab. You don’t have to do it three days a week. You can do it once a week or once a month. I too hate meeting but the aftercare program I go to is somewhat enjoyable. More importantly it definitely helps. Some of those programs really suck. It’s just 3 hours of talking. Me personally, I can’t do that. But there are others that are pretty good. They involve yoga , meditation and working out if you want. And you are free to leave whenever you want (if you are not court mandated)
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Hi Anna! I am in a similar boat and in a similar place, if you ever want to chat 
A couple of meetings won’t work .go for a year.every day.
While AA can be good for some, it’s not for everybody. I’m one of the ones that knew better, and I’ve remained sober with no issues using other methods. Recovery is individual to us all.