Having a hard time finding a sense of self worth & seeing the joy in life without the need to get high or to get drunk but I just can’t seem to find it🤦♀️which always lead me back into relapse. Please any advice?
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Yeah I’m just starting at the beginning of the recovery path...it’s always so hard to get past the first couple days for me. I never can make it past 4 days!! I really want to do it this time though and I’m trying to do whatever I can and take up whatever knowledge I can do succeed.
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Thank you!
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Kay, welcome to Loosid. Welcome to sobriety. I’m an Alcoholic. I admit I used alcohol and drugs as the solution to my thinking problem. I’m also allergic to alcohol. I can’t stop once I start. I’m very selfish and self centered when I drink. I’m a grateful recovering alcoholic who loves AA.
Get to a meeting. Listen to other at the meeting share their experience, strength, and hope. Get some literature and the big book. Get a sponsor. Work the steps.
Step 1-3 have removed the urge to drink or use. I’ve even quit tobacco and caffeine. Exercise and eating healthy food has helped heal my body as well as mindful meditation and spirituality.
You’ve made the first step. Congrats. Keep your head up.
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Good afternoon Kay!!!!! I felt that way when I was drinking had no self worth had no self-esteem hello care in the world about myself. But I never knew that because I was drinking so much. It kept all my feelings inside that made me feel good. Today is today and I still feel that way most of the times. But I don’t let it take me back where are used to be. Because if I do all my self-worth comes back. There is none. But you’re doing the right thing right now they speaking about it. Do you have a decision did Drinkin drug or not drinking drug. I hope you make the right choice. I have faith in you knowing that you will make the right decision. Those are only feelings that you are dealing with yes they do mean something. Did you know we can work through it and when I say we I mean everybody in this program. You will get a joy back trust me because I got my joy back. I got my self-worth back as well. I got all those feelings back. And you know what it’s not as bad as what I thought it was. I can get through today without drinking that was my drug of choice. I deal with my feelings today and you can to just need to talk about it. Find somebody in recovery that you can trust and that you consider as a friend that would be willing to help you. If not lock me up I would gladly help you. That’s my advice to you.
It works if you work it so work it because you’re worth it.
And you are worth it remember that
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One more thing you do have a purpose in life we all do.
Hi Kay. I have a year and 4 months sober and i still take it one day at a time. At the beginning I too felt a lack of purpose and almost helplessness. I learned early on to write down what I was grateful for and eventually I began to gain clarity and appreciation for life again. “I do not dwell in the past but do not close the door on it” either…
I’m always open to chat. Stay strong!
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Looks like you connected with a community of people here easy enough. Maybe there’s other humans out there that you’ll connect with too; that will be a part of your purpose. Keep it up.
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When does it get better or when does that feeling go away? The feeling of empty & helplessness?
I suggest Alcoholics Anonymous. It is the most successful program for addiction . Millions of people worldwide have gotten clean and sober and it's free. The best part is joining a group near you gives your life new meaning and purpose. Try it for a week or a month and you will be surprised at the wonderful sense of community and support you find. Above all, get honest. I couldn't do it on my own. I got actively involved and am still today, 32 years later. I have purpose and have learned to live myself and others. You have nothing to lose. The alternatives, ultimately, are "jails institutions or death", according to our literature. Try it ! You can get your life back 
