Having a hard time~ not finding any new friends. Lonely😣
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Hey carrieann, lonely is okay, reaching out is what we do to stay clean… nice job my friend!! Hmu.
Hi CarrieAnn, I just sent u a friend request😊. Early in my sobriety I tried to go to 90 different live meeting in 90 days. I got numbers and texted people, went to meetings w them, hiking, AA events such as yukkaholics comedy shows. I made tons of sober friends. This can be an adventure and lots of fun. Some of the best friends I ever had, to this day.
A bit of action is required though😉
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Hi there! Just sent you a friend request as well,,, we don’t do this alone., reach out and time…
You’re doing great
Hey. Are you introducing yourself to others at meetings? Have you shared this with your sponsor? Do you attend sober events?
Reaching out today is a step forward. You need local and online sober minded friends/sponsors. Life happens for everyone even our sponsors. Those that have several resources they can contact during the struggling or down moments are likely to find the support they are needing.
So very happy for you! Our success depends on us, but there are many supportive measures we can implement to help us succeed.
Exactly!
This too shall pass friend. Don’t hesitate to lean on us in the meantime. We are here to uplift you! 
Same here. I went around for my 1st two years in recovery feeling like an outcast because of the vibe I was putting into the universe. I had to take a strong look at my part in this. So, I realized I was being a little to forward. I was being honest when you should say something nice. I was just doing a whole list of things that at the end of my day I'd have at least one if not several amends to make. Not trying to put it on you like that- but it's always good to take a look at ourselves and what part we play in our universe and how we make it unbelievably unbearable for ourselves.
There are several fantastic ladies at the pass it on club. Sunday mornings. The 8:30 meeting is awesome! Maybe check that out?.
I feel like what you're saying is "I feel lonely because now I had to give up the friends that I used to have when I was drinking." Believe it or not, this is your head telling you that maybe if you have a couple of drinks, you can hang around with your old friends again and you won't feel lonely.
Loneliness is a state of mind. Finding new friends in our new way of life is something that takes time. We want to be selective about the new friends that we allow unto our lives.
Finding friends who don't drink is going to be even more challenging since everybody these days seems to drink to one degree or another. Sometimes, getting involved with new activities renders new friends into our lives. But keep in mind that drinkers are found all over the place. In the beginning, it's probably more important that you stay away from people who drink.
If you take your time and simply work on your recovery little by little, you will find people who are not very interested in drinking alcohol. They do exist. They're just a little bit harder to find.