I’ve been at this thing for a while now. And I know I can’t control other people, places, or things. I’m so lost right now…
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It's not beyond your control. You can always leave, for your own peace of mind and sobriety. You don't have to put yourself through this.
True. Thank you…
I know it's not easy to hear. And even harder to actually do. But you deserve to put yourself first. And you do have a choice.
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Yes. It’s just really really hard….
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Sorry to hear of your painful situation. You have been around a long time, and you do know this disease very well. The powerlessness frustrating beyond belief. Knowing this, and being able to let it go are two very different things. Stay strong with your recovery program. We can only hope that he will hit a bottom sooner than later, and find the solution.
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I hope so…
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It is very difficult. The disease of alcoholism is horribly destructive.
I have come to understand that I am powerless over not only alcohol, but alcoholism as well.
Remember that our sobriety has to come first because without it we have nothing.
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Yes, thank you.
Just remember "you didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it" if you continue to stay with the love of your life who is using, you have a much higher risk of relapsing! Your recovery has to be #1 no matter what! So that makes your love of your life #2 at the highest, hopefully your mental well being is #2. Perhaps make a gratitude list & see where he falls, in order of what you are most grateful for!
Maybe you leaving him will be his rock bottom & get him to join any recovery group! Maybe not!
Stay strong, pray & meditate. Don't forget to put yourself & your clean time @ the top of the list, your life, literally depends on it!
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Thank you. 
Sarah this advice was perfect. Thank you for telling the truth and explaining how to prioritize our sobriety and mental and emotional health