Is it me or do your relationships/friendships seem to be one sided? Like they don’t understand addiction and if you don’t act and do things a certain way then they distance and say things that hurt and trigger you?
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I totally understand
Regular people don’t have patience or understand
Addicts are triggers but there is hope long term sober addicts like over a year seam to relate and offer hope for me my only female friend wich way out of my league lol but does give me hope for future long turn sober addicts so that’s who I surround my self with now only and I stress only positive peaple and vibes has helped my tortured soul immensely 
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Someone once told me, what others think of you is none your business. I know it sounds silly but it has helped me. Especially after seeing comments people put on my soon to be ex wifes fb posts. I started slow, going to dinner with people after a meeting. The non addict friends that stay around are good friends. I do have one, a friend of 35 years, that cannot understand why I can’t have a glass of good bourbon every once in a while just to enjoy the taste. It get easier to tolerate.
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You can't be mad at people for just not understanding.
Also, maybe disconnecting from social media of close friends/family may be a good thing, too triggering for too many people. Nobody needs to know what everyone is doing/thinking all the time. It's absolute madness.
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right? like my bff smokes a bowel of canabis and i get so triggered by hearing a glass pipe that i start talking about a straight shooter and hard. Then they say i don’t wanna hear about it anymore ugh
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I feel ya I have a x just like that hinse y she is my x had to choose myself for once ya no
Yes. It’s all your fault with them. I’ve been making new friends in recovery and find it refreshing.
It's a lack of empathy. It hurts to not feel seen and understood by people close to you. I totally get that.
I think I'm also sensitive to the judgement of others so when people i care about say something like "why do you have to ruin the fun for the rest of us?" It's made me question my commitment which is just about the worst feeling.
Other folks here have said something similar: you can't take responsibility for other people's opinions. You can only form your own. You can share with them that their opinions hurt you but you can't control how they'll react. At that point, if you don't get an understanding response, you just have to decide if the relationships are still good for you.
They don’t understand sadly because they are not addicts.
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My ex who was an active alcoholic drank in front of me from the minute I got out of treatment till I moved out of state 15 yrs of sobriety later! He didn’t get why I couldn’t get dinner at the bar during that first week either. Go figure! Better served by going to a meeting and having cookies with sober folks!
It is not you. I am 3 years and still in the same situation. Very lonely. Wish I was closer